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Default Sep 06, 2019 at 07:00 PM
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Most of my days include good experiences and bad experiences- today was no exception.

The good- I had a day off of training and school- I purchased plane tickets and made arrangements for a hotel and rental car for a trip in October.

The bad- I ruminated on some problems. I worried about some issues. I felt indecisive at time.

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Default Sep 08, 2019 at 04:28 AM
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for me I do it slightly diffrently, it's not good/ bad experiences, I base it on what I am (or not) doing that day

like for me: how was my previous night

have I eaten today

have I drank enough

have I got much on?

how is my chronic pain

all that information helps me know if I'm having a good day or not

I could be having a really bad day and then listen to one of my favorite songs, but it wouldn't make a diffrence- the day's still bad

today is bad: I spent the night reliving abuse, I have horrible chronic pain in my back, I have nothing planned (accept for being on here and checking emails), and all I've eaten of any use is a few grapes.
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positive post: I am not feeling suicidal today
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Default Sep 08, 2019 at 09:35 AM
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Most of my days include both good and bad, but I feel no reason to measure or label. If I am able to do all the normal activities like eating, sleeping enough, taking my dog outside, and other regular activities, AND include coping skills that allow be to keep myself from ruminating or letting my past experiences in the way of my conscious thoughts and rational thinking, then I guess I can say I have had a good day. Some days are better than others in that I am able to explore my creative side and ultimately feel more accomplished and feel that I have fulfilled my emotional and physical needs, but I am not sure a day goes by that I do not need to use my coping skills.
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Default Sep 10, 2019 at 06:54 PM
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I focus on the bad far too much. Most days really are good and I fail to appreciate that like I should.
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Default Sep 10, 2019 at 09:05 PM
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The positive: In my training session tonight- we just shot the breeze for a while because I told them a story that got everyone talking.

The not-so-positive: But I was kinda irritated because one of the other trainees has openly criticized me a few times. Ever met someone who will criticize something you do, then immediately tell a story- the point of which is that she is above criticism and doesn't care what anyone else thinks? But this person is not a friend- and not someone I have much respect for- and I noticed that our director has openly criticized this person as well (maybe because she sees what is going on?)

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Default Sep 22, 2019 at 08:10 AM
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Negative- my wife and I are fighting. There are times when I think I hate her. I Hate My Wife - 4 Common Reasons Husbands Resent Their Wife


Positive- even though we're fighting, we are communicating. I got an A on the first paper I turned in to a difficult professor.

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Negative: It is unbearably hot here, and we are supposed to stay in the 90s all next week.

Positive: I finally got some sleep last night and feel recharged this morning.

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Thanks for this thread.

The bad: this weekend was really boring and I experienced some discouraging things on Friday.

The good: I'm looking forward to therapy tomorrow, today I saw a career program I'm excited about and am going to inquire more about it, I have a car / I can go places - I'm so grateful for my car! I did my laundry today.
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Great thread. Negative: got caught up in myself and forgot to meet a friend of mine. Positive: Went to visit with a few friends this weekend that I have not seen in a while.
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Default Sep 23, 2019 at 06:42 PM
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Good- I got to play 18 holes of disc golf at a nearby course that I don't play very often. While I was playing, I was approached and invited to a disc golf tournament... and on the last hole- I was being watched by the fellow who invited me and some other players- I made a long putt- and they all cheered when it went in.

Bad- I felt embarrassed and on edge in my early class today, and I'm afraid everyone noticed.

When the fellow asked me if I'd like to play in a tournament this is how it went
Me (out loud)- Well, I'm not sure if I'll have the time, I'm a master's degree student.

Me (in my head) - damn that sounded pretentious- why didn't you just say you were a student? Why did you have to tell him you are pursuing a master's degree? (I'm pursuing a master's degree).

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Good- I got to play 18 holes of disc golf at a nearby course that I don't play very often. While I was playing, I was approached and invited to a disc golf tournament... and on the last hole- I was being watched by the fellow who invited me and some other players- I made a long putt- and they all cheered when it went in.

Bad- I felt embarrassed and on edge in my early class today, and I'm afraid everyone noticed.

When the fellow asked me if I'd like to play in a tournament this is how it went
Me (out loud)- Well, I'm not sure if I'll have the time, I'm a master's degree student.

Me (in my head) - damn that sounded pretentious- why didn't you just say you were a student? Why did you have to tell him you are pursuing a master's degree? (I'm pursuing a master's degree).
I have those reflective moments too, where I think "I should have said something else instead." I think what you said was fine. You might benefit from learning to be more compassionate toward yourself.
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Good- I got out and mowed the lawn (I've been putting it off) and I interacted well with several people throughout the day. I took the time to play 18 holes of disc golf. I made my son and I some good tasting hamburgers (if I may say so myself).


Bad- I felt embarrassed in class, I criticized myself for talking in class (I had intended to purposely keep quiet this class)- and I criticized myself for being embarrassed.

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Good- I got out and mowed the lawn (I've been putting it off) and I interacted well with several people throughout the day. I took the time to play 18 holes of disc golf. I made my son and I some good tasting hamburgers (if I may say so myself).


Bad- I felt embarrassed in class, I criticized myself for talking in class (I had intended to purposely keep quiet this class)- and I criticized myself for being embarrassed.
When I was a student, I always talked a lot in class, sometimes too much. The professors usually liked it.

Good: Made it to work on time.

Bad: Didn't have time to take a shower this morning, and I'm getting acne. I thought I'd be done with this by now. I'm 37!
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Bad- my last training session was pretty intense and stressful- I criticized myself for what I believe to be mistakes I made.


Good- the training is almost over- only one more night. I am able to recognize when I am criticizing myself and find ways to comfort myself instead- for instance to tell myself something like "that was frightening in some ways; you were embarrassed in public; it's okay to be afraid".

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Bad- my last training session was pretty intense and stressful- I criticized myself for what I believe to be mistakes I made.


Good- the training is almost over- only one more night. I am able to recognize when I am criticizing myself and find ways to comfort myself instead- for instance to tell myself something like "that was frightening in some ways; you were embarrassed in public; it's okay to be afraid".

How to Stop Beating Yourself Up for Messing Up
I really like what you've told yourself to comfort yourself. I would like to say things like that to my own self. (I struggle with feelings of shame around my own fear and anger). Good going!
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The bad: my car needed new tires, it was expensive, my parents paid for it and I felt guilty and embarrassed about that.

The good: I have new tires now so I'm not afraid to drive my car, Saturday Night Live is on tonight. Maybe I'll watch it if I can stay up for it. The idea that I am doing better than I think, and it will be okay.
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Good: Got over 7,000 steps today!

Bad: Am exhausted because of it
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Good- We went to a movie last night and had a good time. My wife and and have had a few conversations and I feel better about our relationship. I am able to identify what I'm worried about, take a step back, and look at the situation as an experiment of sorts- and wonder how things will turn out.

Bad- The place where I'm getting my training is literally all women, and me. I feel very much like an outsider. I've been worrying about a few situations.

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Bad- it's tough to be the only guy
Good- At least two people told me that they're thankful for a male influence, and I've been told that others have said they're grateful to have a male influence.

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