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Default Oct 06, 2019 at 07:47 AM
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How do you move on when you feel broken and hopeless? I’ve been through some really tough times over the years. I’ve always been able to pick myself up and I’ve always managed to turn a bad situation into something good. The older I get the harder it seems to be though and I guess I thought with age I would just be wiser and possibly even more resilient. This is not the case right now. I am feeling utterly broken and hopeless. I can’t cope with this anymore.

I’ve put in some calls to find a counselor because I just can’t keep going on like this.
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Default Oct 06, 2019 at 08:29 AM
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I AM TRULY, DEEPLY SORRY THAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH ALL OF THIS ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF AND ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN, @LilyMop, AND THAT YOU'RE HURTING AND STRUGGLING SO BADLY!! I TRULY, REALLY AM!! It's REALLY GOOD that you're trying to find a Counselor, @LilyMop!! PLEASE DO TRUST ME WHEN I SAY THAT!! Unfortunately I'm afraid I don't have a lot of advice myself to give to you! My advice would be to remind yourself what a BEAUTIFUL and WONDERFUL person you are, BECAUSE YES, YOU ARE! Perhaps you can keep a Journal and write some good things that have happened during your Day or some good Qualities that you can think of about YOURSELF! Other than that, please DEFINITELY reach out to a professional or to ANYONE in your Life who can help! Do you have the support of Family and Friends right now? ANYONE at all? In any case, you can count on us for Advice and Support! I PROMISE YOU THAT! THAT'S A PROMISE! YOU CAN REST ASSURED OF THAT! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME, ok? I am SURE plenty of others will be glad to listen to you as well! Sending Many Safe, Warm Hugs To BOTH You, @LilyMop, Your Family, Your Friends, Your Counselor And ALL Of Your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING! I AM TRULY, DEEPLY SORRY FOR WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH, @LilyMop, AND THAT YOU'RE HURTING AND STRUGGLING SO BADLY!! I TRULY, REALLY AM!! PLEASE NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER GIVE UP HOPE NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS!! I HOPE YOU'LL BE ABLE TO PROMISE US THAT AT LEAST!! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING!!

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It’s all gonna be okay
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Thank you so very much. What kindness you exude with your compassionate and caring words. I can’t express enough how much I appreciate everything you said here.
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Default Oct 06, 2019 at 03:31 PM
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No one told me that, as I got older, the cumulative effect of all these difficult things was going to sort of pile up and become something hard to grasp with. It has. We may have some lessons learned or wisdom or whatever, but the difficult, painful things sometimes add up. I find that his takes a toll and I have to work my butt off not to be in a place of bitterness sometimes. Not proud of that, but it is most certainly the truth.

Glad you are looking at talking to someone about all this. I have no doubt that will help you. Hang in there. You've come this far. You can make it to the finish line.

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No one told me that, as I got older, the cumulative effect of all these difficult things was going to sort of pile up and become something hard to grasp with. It has. We may have some lessons learned or wisdom or whatever, but the difficult, painful things sometimes add up. I find that his takes a toll and I have to work my butt off not to be in a place of bitterness sometimes. Not proud of that, but it is most certainly the truth.


Glad you are looking at talking to someone about all this. I have no doubt that will help you. Hang in there. You've come this far. You can make it to the finish line.


You are exactly right. I feel as though everything over the years has piled up and now it just weighs heavily on my heart. Things I used to believe I would overcome in time have now turned into sorrowful grief. I don’t want bitterness to set in but it’s starting to. Thank you for the encouragement.
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Default Oct 06, 2019 at 05:47 PM
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We experience an enormous amount of losses as we get older. Many different kinds. Bitterness is an option, certainly. But you don't want to be THAT person. I'll be thinking of you, and hoping you can find some acceptance.
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We experience an enormous amount of losses as we get older. Many different kinds. Bitterness is an option, certainly. But you don't want to be THAT person. I'll be thinking of you, and hoping you can find some acceptance.


Thank you. You are so right.
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Being broken means it's time to say goodbye to the things that are hurting us. I know it hurts but you CAN get through this. Hang in there!!!
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Being broken means it's time to say goodbye to the things that are hurting us. I know it hurts but you CAN get through this. Hang in there!!!


Yes. It’s time to say goodbye to those things. I’m working on it. I found a counselor near my home and scheduled an appointment.
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I am glad you found one near you!! Bless your heart, honeybunny!

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Default Oct 09, 2019 at 02:37 AM
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Lilymop, I think we all understand. It's tempting to say, What's the point? Things aren't as they used to be. I have nothing left.
I try to remind myself that, logically, the sensible response is not to give up but to get as much pleasure as possible from the years ahead.

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Lilymop, I think we all understand. It's tempting to say, What's the point? Things aren't as they used to be. I have nothing left.

I try to remind myself that, logically, the sensible response is not to give up but to get as much pleasure as possible from the years ahead.


Easy to say!


Sometimes things gets worse before they get better right?
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Definitely. When I joined this forum, I was absolutely certain that nothing was going to work, that I'd never feel better. I was stunned when those first few glimpses of hope appeared. The people here are amazing. Watching how they handle often horrific things with such grace, it really makes you think, Oh maybe I don't need to be so hard on myself, after all.
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Definitely. When I joined this forum, I was absolutely certain that nothing was going to work, that I'd never feel better. I was stunned when those first few glimpses of hope appeared. The people here are amazing. Watching how they handle often horrific things with such grace, it really makes you think, Oh maybe I don't need to be so hard on myself, after all.

I love this. Thank you.
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Same thing here. When I joined PC, it was as a last-ditch, final-hoorah reach for something that could save my life. I was done. But I thought I'd give it a try. Things are still hard, but I am not where I was on that day I joined--thanks to all of you. Thank you all for helping me when I could not help myself.

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Same thing here. When I joined PC, it was as a last-ditch, final-hoorah reach for something that could save my life. I was done. But I thought I'd give it a try. Things are still hard, but I am not where I was on that day I joined--thanks to all of you. Thank you all for helping me when I could not help myself.


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