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I feel angry for past hurts. I don't know what to do. I having trouble living in the present instead of the past. How does a person stay in the present?
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Hey @Buffy01: As an alcoholic in recovery I had to learn to let go of resentments that caused anger, and I feel so much more at peace once I did. Anger comes from resentments and no matter if its justified or not only we can let it go. I found the below article very helpful.
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It's hard to give you a good answer, Buffy! I think what sarahsweets has already WONDERFULLY posted may turn out to be helpful to you. Just acknowledge that the Past is in the Past and that you can only change the Future. Just remind yourself that thinking too much about it won't change what happened in the Past. The Past is in the Past. So definitely acknowledge that! It's hard to move on but it can be done. Acknowledge your Feelings, but also acknowledge that it's time to move on for good. I am so sorry, I know it's hard to do that! Just remember that the Past won't haunt you forever and that you can FIGHT BACK and GAIN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE... It does seem incredible sometimes, but YOU CAN DO IT! DEFEAT THE PAST AND FIGHT FOR YOUR FUTURE! I'm so sorry I don't have more useful things to say to you. Hopefully others will! As always, PM me or anyone else here when you need to! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Buffy01, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS! PLEASE NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER GIVE UP HOPE NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS! KEEP IT UP!
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Are you happy with the choices you’re making in the present? Are you repeating any past behaviors? Maybe it would help to look closely at your self care habits and see if there are any changes you can make going forward so you can truly leave the past behind?
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I like the suggestion re drawing or painting anger.
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I try not to think about the past. I learn that when you control your thoughts you control your emotions
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That is great advice I will keep that in mind.
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How helpful do you find meditation?
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Could a meditation-like exercise be helpful in controlling anger?
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I am content with the choices I am making. Although I have made none big mistakes in my life, but I am okay with the few mistakes I have made. Life goes on. I cannot allow my past mistakes to consume me. I am not repeating past behaviors this I know for a fact. If I was other, people would identify my past behaviors. On the other hand, looking at my self-care habits the changes I made is being cautious with my dealing with people. This have enabled me to leave the past behind. I learned that u can only change yourself but not others.
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I find meditation to be very helpful. Listening to jazz such instrumental jazz helps. one of my favorite music is from Euge Groove "slow jam"
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I honestly don’t know how I stay in the present but I do. I feel like I should have C-PTSD from all the stuff I went through as a teenager and a young adult but I don’t. Sometimes I feel like Cher in Moonstruck. I literally have no idea how I got to where I am now.
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I think Mindfulness is a good way to deal with emotions that take over our thinking. When I started to CONSCIOUSLY use my pre frontal cortex.....
the rational , thinking , part of my brain , it got better. I hardly ever used that part of my brain , only the emotional part. Also trying to get to the root of your anger may help. It’s most likely that a past hurt , something you couldn’t do anything about , is the root of your present anger. Just some thoughts........ good luck to you. Find someone, ( therapist, friend , ) that you can confide in. __________________ Today is the first day of the rest of my life. *Disclaimer * Anything I have posted is strictly my own personal opinion or experience , and is in no way, shape, or form meant to portray a professional assesment of any kind. CB |
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