The high points and low points

LilyMop · Oct 28, 2019 at 08:38 PM

Do you ever think about your low points in life and wonder whether the low points aren’t as bad as you think and the high points aren’t as good as you think? Is that pessimistic? I don’t know if it is or not but I’ve been having a rough time lately and I’ve been wondering whether things are not really so bad as I have built them in my mind. Then I started wondering whether I build good things up in my mind also - then do these things become expectations that lead to disappointments? I think I just get myself out of balance sometimes.

TunedOut · Oct 29, 2019 at 04:08 AM

I wonder if it is just obsessive thinking. At times in my life, my obsessive thoughts have gotten out of hand--especially when they where delusional and off in "left field".

It is good to assess if your thoughts are valid or if you need to make changes to your thinking patterns. There are some great Youtube videos out there that are helpful or just talking to a friend or a good therapist can help us reassess. Happiness is developing the self awareness to make little (or big if necessary but big changes are made up of baby steps) course corrections so we grow into better people.

bpcyclist · Oct 29, 2019 at 09:28 AM

I think I tend to do the opposite, actually. I believe I tend to downplay my lowest points. I think it is a coping mechanism, but I am not totally sure about that. And I feel I also tend to underplay my highest moments. Again, I sense that this is also a kind of coping mechanism. If things weren't really that good, then maybe I haven't fallen as far as I think I have. It seems to be some sort of psychologic protection mechanism.

LilyMop · Oct 29, 2019 at 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by bpcyclist

I think I tend to do the opposite, actually. I believe I tend to downplay my lowest points. I think it is a coping mechanism, but I am not totally sure about that. And I feel I also tend to underplay my highest moments. Again, I sense that this is also a kind of coping mechanism. If things weren't really that good, then maybe I haven't fallen as far as I think I have. It seems to be some sort of psychologic protection mechanism.

I think your approach is more optimistic than mine. I know that it’s all in my perception and when I’m going through a hard time everything just seems very skewed.

LilyMop · Oct 29, 2019 at 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by TunedOut

I wonder if it is just obsessive thinking. At times in my life, my obsessive thoughts have gotten out of hand--especially when they where delusional and off in "left field".

It is good to assess if your thoughts are valid or if you need to make changes to your thinking patterns. There are some great Youtube videos out there that are helpful or just talking to a friend or a good therapist can help us reassess. Happiness is developing the self awareness to make little (or big if necessary but big changes are made up of baby steps) course corrections so we grow into better people.

It’s definitely not a good type of thinking. Possibly obsessive. Maybe a bit catastrophic. It makes things worse.

TunedOut · Oct 30, 2019 at 04:07 AM

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Originally Posted by LilyMop

Maybe a bit catastrophic. It makes things worse.

I definitely engage in catastrophic thinking at times--my sweet husband is the one that has to deal with most of it. Sometimes I am unsure of some of my diagnosis but I totally agree with the diagnosis that I have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). I mainly take medications so that it my family doesn't have to deal with my disorders. Probably wouldn't be motivated to do it if it wasn't for all of them.

Lilly2 · Nov 07, 2019 at 10:08 PM

Thank you for this thread, LilyMop! I am so sorry to hear about your struggles as well as the struggles of so many people here.

I, too, struggle with catastrophic thinking, setting too high of expectations, not knowing how to balance things out sometimes. I obsess at times, too. Maybe my low points are not that low, and maybe my high points are unrealistic or inflated.

I try to melow those out by remaining humble yet true to myself, open yet safe. It is a difficult balance.

sarahsweets · Nov 09, 2019 at 03:19 AM

I think the only real way to notice the low points is when you come out of them. When my daughter ran away we didnt think we would make it but 6 months later we reached a point of acceptance through therapy and we felt like we had reached a milestone.

LilyMop · Nov 10, 2019 at 09:12 PM

I keep telling myself I just need to get up each day and live life. That's it. Just live and just let all this stuff go and stop overthinking it all. Sometimes we just go through something for a while though and maybe we just need to keep muddling through it for a while until we figure out what is what.

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LilyMop Veteran Member Member Since Sep 2019 Location: U.S. Posts: 709 4 81 hugs given	Nov 10, 2019 at 09:12 PM #9 I keep telling myself I just need to get up each day and live life. That's it. Just live and just let all this stuff go and stop overthinking it all. Sometimes we just go through something for a while though and maybe we just need to keep muddling through it for a while until we figure out what is what.
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