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WovenGalaxy
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Last week in my therapy group, I was triggered. Everyone is nice in group. I have a good group. But I still have social anxiety there and it likely shows a lot when I talk. I felt so lonely last week, and not part of the group. It was very sad for me. I cried a lot at home after. And no, I'm not saying what happened or details about it. This is just the gist.
Then the holidays came, and I just didn't get my homework done for this week for the group. I chose not to go today. I feel like I can't deal with my emotions there right now. I get dysregulated in group at times and I'm still processing last week and my feelings about group. It just didn't feel right to go, AND I was nervous to go. This is the first time in a long time I've felt this way, so nervous - then avoid, about a therapy group. I was telling my therapist that I need to protect myself and my emotions in group. She agrees I think. But she said I like this group, but that I'm not putting effort or energy into being friendly, and maybe I should, to get some if that back. I just don't want to be fake. Thinking.....Rick Hanson, an author, psychologist and speaker, uses the term "start with the low hanging fruit." He means like if there's easier people to talk to, try them first. And there are. I will journal about this. I'd just felt I'd regressed back to a pattern. A deep pattern, by avoiding group today. I also felt unresolved, and didn't want to go to group that way. But maybe its just a setback. Like 1 step forward, 2 steps back. Or whatever the phrase is. Im totally going to journal about this, again (lol, I already have, but its not resolved for me yet). |
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I agree that we take a few steps forward and then we take some back. The road to healing and recovery is never a linear path. Nothing ever is right? I feel your frustration. It’s hard to get out of a rut and get past some things. The good news is you do like this group. Everybody has their “off” days. Sometimes you have to muddle through for a while when you’re just not feeling right. I know the feeling all too well. I hope journaling helps you and I hope you are feeling better soon.
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I think journaling is a great idea. Just putting those thoughts out there has got to be good - to release.
I understand your feeling overwhelmed, this happens to me too. Ultimately I gave up a group (hobby not therapy) because of it had got so big I no longer felt comfortable there. I think this contributed to me becoming less socially confident. So I am not a good example of doing things the right way - rather an illustration of what (dropping out) can lead to. Low hanging fruit is a good strategy- and I will lay money that right now there are at least one or two people wondering where that nice Wovengalaxy went. I think you have a lot to contribute and I for one prefer gentler personalities, of which you sound you are one. |
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What is going on that makes you uncomfortable?
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WovenGalaxy
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Thunder Bow, I believe I've said everything. I'm not going to go into more detail.
LilyMop and Dis, thank you. |
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