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Default Dec 09, 2019 at 01:35 PM
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And I'm super attracted to this guy. He's got flaws, as do I but my main concern is he's muslim I'm Catholic. Probably wouldn't be long term.

My family never approves of non white guys, I'm white. I can't even hide how attracted to him I am. I was laughing at him at breakfast as he said no meat in his omelet because he dosen't eat pork. We both work afternoons. So a breakfast date worked. He didn't suggest a 3rd date. I'm hopeful because he extended breakfast to a walk.

I'm just bursting.

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Default Dec 09, 2019 at 01:47 PM
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I understand your concerns because I am Christian and have dated outside my religion with bad results. If you are accommodating and like to submit to others, then it should not be much of a problem. However, if you are not, issues can arise whether it be about food prohibitions or dress prohibitions etc. I would proceed with caution and be wise about such cultural and religious differences. It does not matter if you are white or black or whatever, such differences can cause much stress in the long run and much problems if you can't understand and accept them.
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Default Dec 10, 2019 at 12:28 PM
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It's great that you are attracted to him, but thee are some potential potholes ahead, as pointed out above. Is he conservative? Where is he from? If he is not native to the USA, you should probably do a bit of study about his nation of origin and its treatment of women. Strongly recommend this. For example, if he grew up in Saudi Arabia and if he appears to be at all conservative, I would be very concerned. Women are not exactly held in high esteem in that country. Could be trouble ahead. Just sayin'.

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I agree that it’s best to be with someone you have a lot in common with. It won’t seem like a big deal at first but as time goes on it becomes a huge issue. It’s very important that your significant other shares your same core values. You can have different tastes in music and movies and hobbies and whatnot. The core values must be the same though.
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I am really attracted to him, but doesn't look like there will be a 3rd date. I do have a date with a Catholic, White Guy Saturday. Never married to my married 3x, but we will see how it goes. Never before have I had so much attention on-line. They comment about my smile a lot, and I think it's the meds, I'm happier overall than I ever have been. I used to be depressed, meds really work!

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