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People keep asking me what my Christmas plans are and I’m getting anxious about it. I have no Christmas plans. My family life is a mess right now and who knows if it will ever get better. I have no idea.
I’m very depressed about it and I just don’t want to talk about it. Why is it that when people sense you will be alone for the holidays they press you for information about it? It’s like they have a radar that senses I’m sad and they want to probe into my personal business. I’m to the point I want to just start making something up to get people to just stop. |
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I think im gonna go with, "oh you know, the usual. How about YOU?" If they ask whats your usual, idk, say two cops and a fireman, or something else weird. Then say you misunderstood the question. This is why i dont talk to people much anymore.
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I like that: the usual. They will ask if I’m going out of town or where is my family or why am I working instead of taking time off. Maybe I can say that I love working so much I can’t stop. I think it’s actually rude and nosy to ask people personal questions. I’ve posted about that here before. It’s especially insensitive to pressure someone with personal questions about their holiday plans when clearly they don’t have any. |
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My aunt FINALLY stopped pressuring me about if i have spoken with my brother. The answer is always no! He never calls me. I dont know why. He is two-faced. My mother was two-faced. My father was two-faced. I admit it, i am two-faced, its like blood type! i am doing my best to survive! Honestly, her phone calls have sent me into a 3-month depression and really unneeded weight gains. Not this time, Satan! Or Santa, or whoever!
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When people ask me I usually say something like "I don't really bother much with Christmas" and they usually lose interest pretty quickly after that.
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Some people are looking for sadness in others because it makes them feel good. They probe and pressure and I just haven’t figured out a good way to shut them down. It’s none of your aunt’s business if you talk to your brother. It’s nobody’s business what we do for the holidays or if we go on vacation or what we do over the weekend or do we have kids or where does our spouse work... I get these nosy questions all of the time. It seems to have increased lately. |
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I will be alone, too, Lily. I've decided to make a big feast anyway and I will be fine. I'd rather be alone than be with a bunch of aho*** in my so-called family.
You will get through this. But schadenfreude is definitely alive and well in America. __________________ When I was a kid, my parents moved a lot, but I always found them--Rodney Dangerfield |
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Some people are asking to make sure you have a place to go and they might find such a place for you if you said you were alone. I know when I was a grad student I ended up at several people’s thanksgivings this way because I could not afford a plane ticket at both thanksgiving and Christmas.
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I had to look up what schadenfreude means. Lol. That’s a great word! I’ll be using it. You’re right. It’s alive and well these days. |
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@sarahsweets you seriously crack me up! I LOL'd at your post. That's an awesome response. I am going to use it if anyone asks me what my Christmas plans are. Hahaha!!!
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I’d love to take credit for it but it’s a quote by Buddy the elf from the movie “Elf”.
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I hate when someone asks about my holiday plans, any holiday, including my birthday. I think it's thoughtless, because it might be really triggering to someone if something bad has happened on a particular holiday. For example, my mom used to try to make huge holiday feasts, decorate, and so on. Her intentions were wonderful, but because she was severely mentally ill
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it would finally end when the cops would show up. Bottom line, the holidays are a highly charged time for me and the last thing I want to do is talk about them in the middle of the grocery store or at the dentist or something. Plus, my birthday is in December so...anyway, I just say, "Not much, really" and change the subject. I know people ask just to make conversation, but the holidays are not something I want to visit much. __________________ |
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People just run their mouth. Small talk. I hate small talk. And nosy like heck. Personally I can’t dare less what people do for any holidays. Why ask?
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