Stressed and upset

I am very stressed and upset right now.

I hurt my back BADLY by falling in the shower. I have to see a chiropractor twice per week for however long it takes to heal.

That's $360 out of pocket each month, given the copayments. I don't know how I am going to afford that each month and am stressed, but I must heal and be treated.

And it HURTS. It hurts to sleep and it hurts to work. It's most uncomfortable. I am used to having a strong and resilient body, so it's upsetting to feel somewhat incapacitated.

On top of that, my husband and I are flying to see his parents in March. I had offered to pay for the hotel and he would buy the plane tickets. So I have to be able to now afford $700 for the hotel stay, which is stressing me out.

And we must go... there's no way we cannot, his parents' health is failing and we haven't seen them in over a year.

I am also about 15-20 pounds overweight which is upsetting me. I weighed myself for the first time in months and it was rather discouraging to see that I weigh 141 pounds, and I am only 5'2"!

I am going on a diet to try to at least lose 5 pounds before our trip. But dieting was much easier before I got married, as well as eating healthy foods.

So this is stressing me out too, and is upsetting me. I don't feel sexy anymore, and I used to be when I was 20 pounds thinner. Now I have ugly dimples on my legs. That is not something I used to have.

On the plus side, we're happy together, but we're both overweight.

Grrrrrr.

I guess I am venting.... I am just not terribly pleased with life or myself at the moment and could really use some positives.

Thanks for sharing this. I've had my own back-related struggles over the years. So I can appreciate what you're dealing with. Here's a link to an article, from PC's archives, that may be of some interest:

When You Don't Feel Good About Yourself

I’m sorry you injured your back. Have you thought about trying Physical Therapy ?? It might help and that is covered under insurance

I’m currently trying to lose weight also... I understand how extra weight effects our lives in many ways

Don't think of yourself as overweight ,think more like you are supposed to be 5'4" but didn't get the memo in time . Sexy is not a body type or weight range it's a feeling ,and what does Spock say "feelings are irrational" so either welcome to irrational or welcome to the "on the mend" list , if you have a huge copay i'm sure your spouse wouldnt mind saving a little more of hus wage to ensure you can pull this trip off . A treatable medical condition that's being treated ,isn't the end of the world ,talk to your spouse don't sweat the details alone , a relationship is give and take ,your not meant to suffer both physically and emotionally alone , if you were you would still be single and dating an endless string of people who didn't appreciate you .

Thank you! And sorry for your own struggles!

Thank you!

I will see what my Dr tells me to do... and will go from there. Yes, extra weight sucks.

Thank you for your kind words. Very wise! TY.

And now I am stressed and upset over my work issues and situation. I feel very anxious about it. Nothing is ever easy.

Vent away, @Have Hope! I can certainly relate about being stressed out. I feel the same way. Don't worry, it will pass. Just take it one step at the time and do what you can. You are just human! Do what you feel like doing. No pressure, ok? Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Have Hope, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

Thank you, @MickeyCheeky! Much appreciated. I honestly feel like total crap right now about myself. I feel very low.

Have Hope, I'm also petite and 5"2. My BMI is healthy now but it wasn't always.

My BMI was 25 like yours is now; which is 5-10 pounds overweight. That's nothing! 141 pounds is not as bad as 241 pounds. At one point, before I did intermittment fasting, when my thyroid was kaput, my weight ballooned to 200 pounds. I was insulin resistant, my thyroid was hypo and had stopped working, my heart became enlarged so it couldn't efficiently pump blood through my body (as a result of my thyroid dying when I was put on Lithium by a bad psychiatrist -- my mother's pdoc) when I was 21. Up until that age, my heart was a normal size, I had no insulin resistance, my weight was normal, and I didn't have asthma or hay fever, or eczema, or anything.

But those few months that the pdoc illegally prescribed me Lithium for "grief" instead of a legit mental health diagnosis, he ruined my health forever. What followed has been a cascade of health failures of my body's systems in 28 years. Because one asshole with a license to prescribe, chose me to line his pockets with money from my health insurance company and Big Pharma, by prescribing me a drug I didn't even need!

I would not go overboard about your weight. No diet is needed. Not even intermittment fasting. Not for 5-10 pounds. Just be sensible with the hours you eat, and the type of food you eat. Go for casual walks and get enough sleep and by March the weight will have sloughed off naturally.

I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through! Sounds horrible. Hugs.

I’m definitely focused on losing weight. I just don’t feel comfortable and prefer myself thinner. I’ll try not to obsess though. I’ll try.

Have Hope if you lost 5 pounds then puts your BMI at 24.9 which is healthy. You really don't need to overdo it, to lose that 5 pounds. Obsessing about 5 pounds may help you gain weight. Stress = cortisol. And stress creates high cortisol levels in the body which in turn blocks insulin production and creates insulin resistance which in turn means you can't lose that 5 pounds. So, relax, don't do it. Makes me think of that Franke Goes to Hollywood song, but with stress eating instead of the other thing.

I want to lose 10-15 pounds and be back to where I was before I gained all this weight though. It's important to me. I've had to buy all new clothes and a new wardrobe as a result. Some of my fav clothes no longer fit. I'm going to diet and I'm going to slowly lose the weight. I care about how I look AND feel, even more importantly. And I don't feel good about myself when I am overweight. I just don't.

Have you ever tried intermittent fasting before? That is basically where you only eat for a scheduled 8 hours a day and fast for the other 16 hours. It's not a 24 hour fast or fad diet either. Lots of information online about how to follow the 16/8 intermittent fasting schedule. You eat the foods you want but only within an 8 hour window.

Interesting. Hmmm... I can’t imagine fasting though. The hunger would drive me nuts.

I do weight watchers and have lost 4 pounds so far. It works pretty well.

Well you choose the 8 hour window you will eat. It's surprisingly easy to follow. You can drink water, tea, coffee, after the 8 hour window but you just can't eat any food. It's super healthy.

My doctor is the one who suggested it to me, or I wouldn't have known it existed. And if a doctor suggests it, you know it has the potential of being safe. Not always b/c not all doctors are "good" doctors. But I trust my doctor and I tried it and it worked.

It was easy for me not to overeat at night, b/c anytime I have done that, I get terrible indigestion and have to drink Pepto Bismol every 2 hours to quell the symptoms. So, not having indigestion at night, was a total motivator for me to just eat within an 8 hour window.

Plus, I would walk at night after dinner to decrease my anxiety of living alone, and then would take a bath after that, so by the time my bath was over, I was ready for bed and didn't eat anything. I gave up some really terrible eating habits too.

I’m using slim fast. It’s the easiest for me in terms of work. I’ve used it previously and lost eight pounds. Weight watchers is good too.

You could also start with a 14:10 fast. That's what I've been doing. I sleep through most of it though. It's easy for me, but I have to make sure to cut more hours in the morning than at night because I won't sleep if I'm hungry.

Just another thought on that. How are you doing otherwise. Sorry I haven't been in touch for awhile, but you should know that you can always message me if you want to chat.