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Default Jan 15, 2020 at 09:43 PM
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I'm feeling sad today, I was really starting to like him. My therapist said he did me a favor. But right now I don't see that favor I just feel the yuck. He talked me into breaking up with all the guys I was dating just a day before breaking up with me. He called me his soulmate, said he loved me more than I love him, just to end things the next day?! That's cruel.

I updated my profile, and have been rejecting everyone basically. I'm too upset to date. No way can I hang in a limbo and wait for him for a few weeks. I have to let him go, and move on. When I'm ready.

If he comes back, which I'm now doubting, I'll deal with it then.

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Default Jan 15, 2020 at 10:59 PM
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Sending you lots of hugs, Aviza. I feel you on being to upset to date. Be gentle with yourself these next few days. Do things for you: watch your fav Netflix under a cozy blanket, pet an animal, get a massage, visit your Mom if you think it would help. Do the things that bring you comfort. you are worth so much more and you deserve better.
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Default Jan 16, 2020 at 06:38 AM
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((((((Aviza))))))) Yes, do comforting things for yourself right now. I am very sorry that you are in pain and feeling sad.

I think this guy said all the right things that you wanted to hear, and it seems he led you on. I don't think it was in truth, given that he couldn't say that you were dating after 2 months, and after all the sweet nothings he gave you. He used you, and that hurts, and I'm very sorry for that.

I've been in your shoes before, when I was so desperate for love that I ignored all the red flags. It's easy enough to do when you want to feel love and to be loved. One red flag was when he backed off in the beginning after you brought up whether he would marry again and if he would tell his older children that he's dating after just 3 dates.

Try to see this as a lesson in love. It's a hard lesson, yes, but it's a lesson. Please next time, don't bring up marriage so quickly, don't rush things, and take it slowly. Allow things to naturally develop and much more slowly. People typically don't fall in love that quickly, nor say the things he did so soon. Those are all red flags that perhaps it wasn't genuine.

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Hugs......

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Default Jan 16, 2020 at 03:52 PM
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I'm feeling good again talked to my mom and we exercised today. She said some stuff that just cheered me up.

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Default Jan 16, 2020 at 04:22 PM
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Sorry that you have to deal with it but it’s for the best. He is a jerk. Men who profess undying love as soon as they meet you either want to get into your pants or are unstable. You dodge the bullet. I am glad you are free from this freak
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Default Jan 16, 2020 at 07:25 PM
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Big hugs, Aviza. Awww, I'm so sorry.
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Default Jan 18, 2020 at 08:40 PM
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Grrrrr how cruel of him. I'm sending hugs

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Default Jan 19, 2020 at 01:53 PM
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Well I texted him for answers, got them. Now he thinks we're back on, but he doesn't want a committed relationship and that is what I am seeking. He says he's not dating others but won't put a label like boyfriend/girlfriend. My ARMS worker thinks it's too early to determine that status but my thought is he never will. Though we had a rough start. He constantly says things that he doesn't want drama, he wants us to be together as long we are happy together. But I am drama! I'm bipolar! I'm an emotional person. I'm debating about just trying to start over with dating. Find someone more compatible, but there's a chemistry between us. That's the problem.

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Default Jan 19, 2020 at 03:22 PM
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Please consider the fact that he’s given many, MANY mixed messages. Such as you’re soulmates, he loves you more than you love him... and now he cannot call you his girlfriend? Hon, he’s toying with your emotions! Do you really need or want that?

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Default Jan 19, 2020 at 04:37 PM
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He’s made it clear he does not want a committed relationship with you.. when people tell you that believe them.

Chemistry? Some where on PC you talked about wanting sex all the time and that’s fine... this guy isn’t going to change his mind.. stay with him only for sex when he wants , use condoms every single time, but HPV ? You can still get regardless of condom use as that’s just skin to skin contact.

But you know your Bipolar will be a struggle. You will want more and not get it.

Why ask for problems??

Move on... meet a guy and take it s l o w .

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