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May 10, 2020 at 11:26 AM
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Just yesterday one of my friend told me you're boring me and told me I've muted your messages. I mean that was quite rude of him! He is generally rude and inconsiderate towards people. But obviously it doesn't justify and I felt hurt. Because now I feel that I'm annoying him, he doesn't want to talk to me and I shouldn't message him I'm just forcing myself on him. .. like all these feelings from one comment. I mean if I say someone they're boring I don't think they would be hurt or so bothered about it right. We had a good conversation just the day before, so then I think how can he feel annoyed.. He just felt annoyed at the moment. Idk. I'm struggling with my mental health recently, so that is overflow of emotions. But I'm trying to take it a little lightly. If I cannot after a few days I'll tell.him clearly what I feel maybe. . .. idk. What should I do? I feel so anxious and hurt. Should I stop texting him? Or should I ask him. Or should I just let it go and behave like I use to?
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May 10, 2020 at 01:45 PM
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He does not sound like a good friend. It sounds like you've had a mix of experiences with him, good and bad, but because of that, you are rationalizing his behavior. That's not okay behavior and it IS mean to say "You're boring me. I'm muting you now." My advice would be to not message him and just move on. Especially since he is generally rude and inconsiderate. I would not be friends with someone like that, but that's just me. Or, if you want you could message him one last time, checking out your feelings, like you want to, and then if he doesn't respond (which is rude, mean, etc) because he has you on mute, etc, or is just a jerk, forget him. I get the sense that you may have low self esteem? You are worth much more than a friend who acts this way! You deserve to be treated well in your friendships, we all do.
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May 10, 2020 at 03:44 PM
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  it doesn't sound like he is a good friend. I'm sorry he treated that way. I wouldn't have anything to do with this guy.
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May 11, 2020 at 12:37 AM
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May 11, 2020 at 05:48 AM
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What a jerk! I would not want to be friends with someone who treats me so rudely. I understand you don't want to lose a friendship, but what kind of friendship are you holding onto when they hurt you like that? Cut them loose. Who needs rude and mean friends? Better to face loneliness than have someone cut down your self esteem and self worth.
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May 11, 2020 at 06:05 AM
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He doesn't sound like a friend worth keeping to me. But I understand how it is to be lonely.
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May 11, 2020 at 08:17 PM
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This guy is moron,and you may like this quote: "The power other people have,is the power I give away to them". You deserve much better!
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May 12, 2020 at 12:15 PM
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May 12, 2020 at 12:23 PM
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I also try to rationalise when someone is being rude with me. It doesn’t take me to anywhere, only to future regrets.
The only exception I see here is if this person is ready to apologise and change his behaviour and he does it. That’s it. I’d rather be alone. __________________ Social Anxiety and Depression. Cluster C traits. Trying to improve my English. My apologies for errors and mistakes in advance. Mankind is complex: Make deserts blossom and lakes die. ( GIL SCOTT-HERSON) |
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May 14, 2020 at 01:36 AM
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This is not a friend.
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May 17, 2020 at 06:56 PM
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Horrible. Definitely not a friend, doesn't have your best interests in mind.
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May 17, 2020 at 06:58 PM
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You said he is generally rude towards people, so it is natural he was now rude to you. It is hurtful and a good friend does not say rude, hurtful things.
I had a similar friend and had to end the friendship after too many super rude comments toward me. You could try talking to him about not being hurtful to you, and it might help. When I refused to have an over-the-line conversation with my friend (of 40 years), she never spoke to me again. Just saying this as a warning for what to expect. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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May 18, 2020 at 03:16 PM
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I can relate with this and I'm hurt too by what people say. So your not alone. I've always been very compassionate, so I think this is why what things people say hurts me more. Just continue to be yourself. Your friend doesn't sound like a good friend at all. |
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May 18, 2020 at 07:12 PM
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He isn't a good friend, nor is he a real one if he treats you this bad. If you don't want to keep feeling like this, please cut him off from your life if won't change.
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