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Confused Jun 08, 2020 at 10:54 PM
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I'm sick of Denver and I'm sick of people... I want to move to a remote location with beautiful scenery and maybe 4 people at the most lol. I am sick of dealing with everyone's crap. Denver is overbuilt and pretentious and the traffic sucks. I want to go somewhere where I'm not fenced in. I want to go far away from here. I want to leave. I have no idea why I'm babbling random **** like this on here. I just really, really hate the human race right now. Always did, frankly-- but in light of recent events, I've just decided that H. sapiens sucks on a major level. I want to be a freakin hermit. I don't get it-- I have a good job, friends, family, my own home, what's wrong with any of that? I just feel the urge to up and leave again.
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Default Jun 09, 2020 at 10:01 AM
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Dear indigo1015,

I have felt like that too, although not specifically about Denver. One of my best memories is of a time when I drove through the state of Colorado. I was going to see a play being performed in a city called "Snowmass-at-Aspen." I thought it was a very beautiful state. The memories of that time are still vivid. I only spent a couple of days in the city of Denver. The roadways did seem crowded if my memory hasn't failed me. I think I was more impressed with the more rural areas of Colorado though.

Since I am not in your shoes, I cannot really say anything about your feelings about human beings, but I imagine I would probably feel exactly as you do if I had your total life experiences. I have had both positive and negative experiences with my fellow human beings but in my case, mostly positive. I am really sorry that your experiences have been so awful. That is really heartbreaking.

I have been lucky to be able to live in other countries and I notice that in some countries a lot of people seem to be burdened with "having a chip of their shoulders." I don't know if you have experienced this or whether it is unique to me. So many people have a "could be better, but isn't better" attitude, almost like a default attitude: could be better, could be better, could be better, could be better. In some countries I have visited the people seem to have a different attitude: could be worse, but isn't worse. As a result they seem more at peace with themselves and others, more appreciative, more grateful . . . more . . . happy in the general way.

The people whose default attitude seems to be "could be better, but isn't better" seem to be prone to dissatisfaction, aggravation, anger, sadness, guilt and general distress. I guess it would be strange if the "could be better but isn't better" attitude didn't engender such feelings and moods. I imagine there is some biology involved in this. I kind of grew up with this default attitude myself so I am certainly not exempt from what I am talking about.

For awhile I have been trying to have a more "could be worse but isn't worse" attitude toward things and find that it gives me more peace of mind and more joy of living. Sometimes I do feel drawn to flee those who are stuck in the "could be better but isn't better" attitude. Since I feel that they are not even aware that they radiate this attitude and since I feel that they themselves are more victims than perpetrators of it, I don't generally have bad feelings towards them. And having been a big-time chip-on-one's shoulder person I am the last person to judge others. Sometimes, however, I do feel drawn to flee such people for my own sanity. So I think I can empathize with what you write about.

Hopefully many people here will see your post and respond with their own unique ideas and feelings. I wish you only the best.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen
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Default Jun 09, 2020 at 11:21 AM
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I'm sick of Denver and I'm sick of people... I want to move to a remote location with beautiful scenery and maybe 4 people at the most lol. I am sick of dealing with everyone's crap. Denver is overbuilt and pretentious and the traffic sucks. I want to go somewhere where I'm not fenced in. I want to go far away from here. I want to leave. I have no idea why I'm babbling random **** like this on here. I just really, really hate the human race right now. Always did, frankly-- but in light of recent events, I've just decided that H. sapiens sucks on a major level. I want to be a freakin hermit. I don't get it-- I have a good job, friends, family, my own home, what's wrong with any of that? I just feel the urge to up and leave again.

WOW, I thought that was me who posted this.

I live in a major-metropolitan city in the US and I feel exactly the same way. I had recently posted about what has gone on with me in my apartment (in the Anxiety Forum). When I was younger, I thought that it would be nice living close to others. It was nice for a while. But lately, it's getting on my nerves. And yes, I want to retire and live in the boonies somewhere. I'm looking into that now.

It's a dilemma for me right now. I like my job and the people I work with. At home, it's a different story entirely. I have been feeling that way for quite a while before all of this madness started to happen. I want to live in a place where I can be myself and not be told how to go about my life. I want to exercise with fairly loud music without having to worry about bothering someone else. And I don't want other people bothering me; such as keeping me awake at night with their little noises. Although out in the boonies, maybe the wildlife might keep me awake.

I hope that you can come to a place someday that you can happy with. And me, too.
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I dream all the time about moving to Eastern Oregon, very rural, nothing there, extremely beautiful. I totally get it, I do.

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Thanks for the input everyone. Yaowen, you make a good point that attitude plays a big part. Like I said, I should be grateful for everything I have. I just keep wishing I could be somewhere else, doing something different, instead of appreciating what is right in front of me.
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was just thinking this today
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Default Jun 18, 2020 at 09:21 AM
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Hey Indigo - is a move, or even just a little trip, a possibility?

One of the things I've been thinking about lately is how much we can control in our lives, but don't. I don't really love where I'm living for lots of reasons (especially the heat and bugs!). Honestly, if you don't like where you live - I think it becomes a constant, low-grade but always-present, sense of stress and unhappiness.

So, have you thought about where you might be happier? Maybe there's no place where it's realistic to be 100% away from people, but is there someplace that you think gets you closer to what your ideal would be?

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Hey guilloche... I'd love to move to the western slope of Colorado-- it's much less populated. I really have to plan it out though, especially since I own my own place.
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Hi Indigo - that actually sounds really awesome. I haven't been to Colorado, but it sure looks beautiful, and I can totally imagine how the less populated parts would be really especially lovely.

And I'm sort of jealous, because you know where you want to go, and you're already in the right state! (Moving within a state should be less trouble than moving to another state).

Planning isn't bad a thing. Good luck with it!!! I'm actually a little excited for you now!

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Indigo - I've driven though Colorado only once in my life and was impressed with it. The eastern part was OK, but west of Denver was much nicer. I have a good friend who wants to move to Golden. I don't know if he will move there or not.

I feel exactly the way you do. There are lots of areas in my state that are really nice but I don't care for the politics of my state. I was going to look at an area on the opposite coast last April but didn't go because of the crisis.

I don't know how old you are; like if you are close to retirement age or younger. I hope you can find a way out pretty soon. Let us know if you do! So many people are getting tired of city life, especially older people (kind of like me!).
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Thanks for the feedback everyone... I'm your basic millennial, mid-thirties. Colorado as a whole is a great state, but the front range is all built up and overcrowded. Full of pot-smoking yuppies and rich hippies. I hate the traffic. It sucks. But I'm stuck here while I build up equity on the condo I bought in 2018. I just want peace and quiet is all.
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All the more reason to write down a plan to change your life. If you are miserable there, then you should pursue your dream place.
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