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Default Jul 01, 2020 at 07:57 PM
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I’m not really sure where to post this, but here seemed a good option!

Yesterday, I was called in to my supervisors office and given a “counseling”. I was told there were several anonymous employee complaints about me. The complaints were: (1) My attitude is off-putting. (2) I do not enforce staff compliance, such as only two employees allowed to be on break simultaneously. (3) I do not interact enough with patients.

I thought I got along well with my co-workers and patients! I had no idea anyone was complaining about me behind my back. It was embarrassing, to say the least!

I struggle with social interactions (Diagnosis of agoraphobia without panic disorder, PTSD, and RAD), so hearing this was a big hit to me emotionally because I thought I was doing well. Now... I feel like everyone is whispering behind my back, and humiliated that I didn’t realize I was disliked.

Today, I did my job to the best of my ability, and kept to myself. I did not attempt to socialize, kept things as professional as possible, and just focused on the tasks I needed to complete.

How do I move forward emotionally? Although, I held myself in check, all I wanted to do was hide and cry all day long! Every co-worker I saw, I wondered if they were one of the alleged “several” that complained about me and could feel my heart rate increase and face begin to burn from embarrassment.

I should add, I only work directly with 4 other employees (and I am their direct supervisor). I am the lead nurse on a dedicated COVID-19 Unit (38 bed unit). Facility wide, there are 6 individual units, 1200+ employees, and +/- 900 patient capacity. I have no way of knowing if “my” employees complained, or if the complaints came from other facility co-workers (whom I do not have direct interaction with since my unit is isolated from the rest of the facility.
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Default Jul 01, 2020 at 08:47 PM
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First of all thank you very much for being in a front line and doing this hard and dangerous job. You are a hero.

Now about complaints or what not. It’s not easy to be in this extremely difficult line of work when you have any type of challenge or disorders. Other people don’t have a clue.

My husband is also supervisor RN of a hospital unit. He supervises RNs, aids and PCS. My husband has Tourettes and severe OCD. Others with his level of disorder are on disability collecting SSI. He once had a person complaining that he whistles. It’s one of the things he occasionally does to curb Tourettes ticking. Please...

Are you seeing a therapist? It could be extremely helpful to run work situations by a therapist and work on some strategies. My husband sees a therapist and most of his sessions focused on work situations. Like he said that I did this and what do you think I could do better. It helps. He also runs these situations by me. Do you have anyone at home you can run some situations by?

Again thank you for your hard work. Stay safe
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Default Jul 01, 2020 at 09:09 PM
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The complaints were: (1) My attitude is off-putting. (2) I do not enforce staff compliance, such as only two employees allowed to be on break simultaneously. (3) I do not interact enough with patients.
1) HOW is your attitude off-putting?
2) A coworker complained because you allowed 2 staff members to break together?
3) Work on interacting with your clients more. That's all you can do.
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Default Jul 04, 2020 at 12:55 PM
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This seems a bit nit picking to me. Thank You for putting yourself at risk of infection. Cary on as you usually do. Those complainers are envious of you and they gossip to much.

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1) HOW is your attitude off-putting?
2) A coworker complained because you allowed 2 staff members to break together?
3) Work on interacting with your clients more. That's all you can do.
I was not given a clear understanding of how my attitude could be seen as off putting. From what I could ascertain, I am “too quiet”, and it leaves people suspicious of my motives, or they feel that I must think I am ‘better’ than them.

A co-worker (the off going nurse) complained because there were 3 employees in the break room. We are not supposed to allow more than 2 on break at the same time. It was the beginning of the shift, and they were discussing the report from the off going shift as they prepared for the start of their shift...so, none were, technically, on a break. The off going nurse felt that I should have sent them to the floor because “the break room is for breaks, so it violates the rules for all 3 to be in there”.

My patients are quarantined, so physical contact is limited to necessary care. It takes about 10-15 minutes to gear up before entering a room. I interact as much as I am able to, while providing care. None of my patients have complained. The same nurse that complained about the ‘2 employee limit in the break room’ complained.

These complaints occurred after I told my employees to refuse the floor from the off going shift. I was, admittedly, angry because several patients were left in less than ideal conditions, and the off going nurse commented to my staff that the purpose of their rounds was for her team to tell mine what they didnÂ’t complete so my team could complete those things. I openly disagreed with her...and when she began talking over me, I walked away and told my employees to refuse the floor. Off going nurse told her employees to go home, and went to administration with her grievances regarding me.
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