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Old 10-28-2020, 04:25 PM   #101
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I feel really emotionally needy right now. I keep trying to find comfort.. anywhere I can find it.. online with FB groups, here, with my friends...

It's anxiety - I am super anxious, I am hurting and I am suffering.

The unknown is really scaring me. My therapist scared me today with hypotheticals and worst case scenarios regarding my pending divorce. It scared me greatly. What if I don't get this job offer? Then what he asked? What if your husband asks you if you are happy, what do you say? What if things end before you have a job? WTF? Do you want to give me heart attack??????

These are the questions and hypotheticals that my therapist asked me.

As for me? I need to go with the flow and take things as they come, one day at a time. I cannot plan for all these different possible scenarios - it's giving me MASSIVE anxiety!

And I am calling every possible friend and family member to talk about this upcoming divorce. I have SO many emotions swirling around it.. the main one being anxiety. Nothing seems to be helping to ease my anxieties, no matter how many people I call and no matter whom I speak with.

I think I am freaking out.
This is just a guess because I don't know the full context or tone of voice, but maybe your therapist was trying (but made it worse) to give you a worst case scenario to say that even if you lost all these things what would you have? I.e. friends and family that love you, a good heart, etc.

I know you have helped alot of people here on pc including myself. Your validations have gotten me through some dark times. I'm sure others would agree.
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Old 10-29-2020, 06:59 AM   #104
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This is just a guess because I don't know the full context or tone of voice, but maybe your therapist was trying (but made it worse) to give you a worst case scenario to say that even if you lost all these things what would you have? I.e. friends and family that love you, a good heart, etc.

I know you have helped alot of people here on pc including myself. Your validations have gotten me through some dark times. I'm sure others would agree.
@guy1111, thanks!

My therapist was trying to get me to think ahead in terms of what MAY happen and how I would handle it so I am not blindsided and left without options or plans in my pocket. He told me that was his intention.

But it had the opposite effect and made me extremely anxious!

And thanks for the support..... you're very kind. I hope I've been validating for you in your own situation. I try.
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Old 10-29-2020, 07:20 AM   #105
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Ya, that seems ridiculous. Why throw out scenarios that haven't happened to try and help someone? Sorry your therapist stressed you out more!

You have definitely helped me a lot!

Anyways, hope things get better for you. You are strong for moving forward and smart to reach out to all your channels of support in time of need!
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Ya, that seems ridiculous. Why throw out scenarios that haven't happened to try and help someone? Sorry your therapist stressed you out more!

You have definitely helped me a lot!

Anyways, hope things get better for you. You are strong for moving forward and smart to reach out to all your channels of support in time of need!
@guy1111, I'm glad to know I've helped you! Sometimes I've felt like I'm not being helpful at all. So it's good to hear that some of what I've said has helped!



And thanks so much...... yeah, I cannot deal with hypotheticals. I have to just live in the present moment with what is happening in front of me. He posed far too many hypotheticals, I cannot think in those terms, and it stressed me out completely.

NOT helpful.

I am definitely gathering my support system. I'm calling various friends and am talking to them about this.

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I did not get the job I had hoped I would be getting an offer for.

Here was her note (pasted below) - which made little sense to me: am I overqualified????? Is that what she is saying? They changed the role on me during the interview process, particularly during that last interview, so maybe instead they decided that they couldn't offer me the role I had applied for?

"Hi ___________,

Thank you so much for going through the hiring process with me and the team. Ultimately, coming across a strong candidate like you made the team reflect on the role we were hiring for and right now we're not going to move forward with your candidacy.

I hate to say something like you're too skilled, but it's the honest truth. After meeting with the team and Peter, the conversation became clear that we could bring you in, but it wouldn't be a fair career progression. You would bring a welcomed level of mentorship and management.

Again, I appreciate and thank you for your time in this process and I wish you the absolute best in your search. I'm sure a very lucky company will scoop you up.

All the best,
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I'm really sorry that this one didn't work out.
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I'm really sorry that this one didn't work out.
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I also interviewed for a job which I did not get. I don't feel bad though because I realized at my age I am too old to be a company employee. I learned this the hard way. I hope things work out for you in the end. Sometimes, you get what you need, not what you want.
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