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Default Oct 17, 2020 at 03:37 PM
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Have Hope. Thinking of you. I have been through many struggles and I “ have hope “ for everyone. It does get better. I know I can’t take away your present suffering, but hang in there, there are brighter days ahead!!!!
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Sorry you had a crappy day/evening. Hopefully your husband forgives you and you work things out with your girlfriend.

We all have our moments. At least you can be honest with yourself. That is very important!
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Sorry you had a crappy day/evening. Hopefully your husband forgives you and you work things out with your girlfriend.

We all have our moments. At least you can be honest with yourself. That is very important!
Thanks, guy. I really appreciate it.

I am uncertain of my marriage for certain. I just don’t know.

I’m really suffering right now.

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You’ll do great on Monday. It’s wise preparing for it under the circumstances.
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You’ll do great on Monday. It’s wise preparing for it under the circumstances.
Thank you. I really hope so.

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Default Oct 18, 2020 at 09:37 AM
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Now my husband is having a meltdown.

I've got to keep it together. I cannot fall apart again.

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Why is he having a meltdown?
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Why is he having a meltdown?
He's under immense stress at work (there's loads of issues there), his back is in enormous pain today (worse than I've ever heard from him, but he sees his chiropractor tomorrow), then there's our own marital stress and issues, and then the rest of it (the pandemic and politics).

It's just far too much for both of us right now.

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Try to find something to take your mind off things together. We went to haunted Halloween activities last night I screamed and laughed so hard I almost fell off hayride wagon and I sure forgot there was pandemics going on. Of course today we are back to reality. Work situations are tough nowadays. My husband had to interview to a new job too, in a different hospital because his surgeon wouldn’t give him a release for returning to work after surgery. He is now stressing out about it too. Hang in there. Watch some comedy together.
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Default Oct 18, 2020 at 11:48 AM
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I agree with Divine 1966! Is there something yawl can do to try to back off some of the stress somehow? I am not trying to minimize your situations or make light of them. I cannot imagine what your situation must feel like, but doing something to take your minds off of your stress can recharge your brain and batteries.


What can you think of? Do you craft or cook or something?

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Thanks for the suggestions. We did go out for live music last night which was a nice distraction and break. But then we discovered a hornets nest outside our kitchen window today and they’re coming inside our kitchen!! Our landlord is out of town so an exterminator cannot come until tomorrow. I have an interview tomorrow. My husband is moaning right now in physical pain. Not a good day for low stress.

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Default Oct 18, 2020 at 12:30 PM
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I’m cracking. I’m severely depressed. COVID has gotten to me along with my unemployment and marital issues.

I really don’t have the strength anymore. I want to go to sleep and wake up in a different life.

I need far more strength to get through this. And I’m afraid it’s gone
Dont Give up!!! Please DONT GIVE UP!! I was in a similar situation a few months ago and I had a mental breakdown. I was hospitalized I didnt have anywhere to go and as I couldnt pay my hospital bills any more and had been there for over 6 months they had to let me go, I hit rock bottom. I thought it was over for me too but im here to tell you when you are at such a hopeless place this is where things can drastically change and it can be the most unexpected thing. What pulled me out that dark place was an audiobook by David R Hawkins (Letting Go: The Pathway Of Surrender), I firmly believe this book is a gift from God for anyone who has lost hope. I know its hard but just allow yourself 1 day to just listen to this powerful book. You can get it for free on audible just give it a listen

I hope this helps you like it helped me
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Default Oct 20, 2020 at 05:45 AM
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I feel you. My wife had a meltdown last night. She said she didn't want to go to therapy together anymore. I hope she is just venting. We have an appointment today.
My boss cut my hours, too, so we will have less income.
You are not alone. With all the stresses of life around us that alot of people are going through we must be strong. Only the strong will survive right now! You got this! One step at a time!!
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I feel you. My wife had a meltdown last night. She said she didn't want to go to therapy together anymore. I hope she is just venting. We have an appointment today.
My boss cut my hours, too, so we will have less income.
You are not alone. With all the stresses of life around us that alot of people are going through we must be strong. Only the strong will survive right now! You got this! One step at a time!!
@guy1111, oh I'm so sorry to hear this!!! I hope your wife will go to the appt today with you. And I'm so sorry your hours got cut. It's such a stressful time!

I must admit that I lost my strength a while ago. Too much ****** and I can't take it anymore.

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How'd your interview go?

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How'd your interview go?
@happysobercrafter, thanks for asking.

The good news is it went well, so I have a third interview today with the same company.

This is the one silver lining right now, and I pray that I get this job offer.

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Excellent!! You sound calmer. May I ask what field you work in? I will respect your choice if you prefer not to answer my question. Best Wishes!!!

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Excellent!! You sound calmer. May I ask what field you work in? I will respect your choice if you prefer not to answer my question. Best Wishes!!!
@happysobercrafter thanks so much!!!

I work in digital marketing and have for twelve years. It's a very comparable role to the one I had last, but was laid off.

Fingers R crossed!!!!!!

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On a more sober note, I fear that my marriage is ending. And I have to do well in this interview today. It is SO hard to compartmentalize my marital problems while trying to focus on interview prep.

This truly is a nightmare for me. Everything going on. I am losing my grip. If I manage to get past this interview, it will be a miracle.

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