I can’t cope anymore

Are you excited about this job more so than the last?

Yes - it's a director level role whereas the last was a senior level role. I'd far rather be in a higher level position earning more money.

EEK -- I just read the most horrific reviews of this company that just interviewed me. Terrible, toxic work culture is written repeatedly by various anonymous employees.

I did raise an eyebrow when HR did not give ME a chance to ask HER any questions in our interview the other day. That to me is a HUGE RED FLAG. Whenever a company does this in my experience, it means they're hiding something from you.

Awesome. Just awesome. Two companies that contacted me this week for a director level role have the most horrific employee reviews on Glassdoor.com. I am withdrawing my application for both positions. The company culture for each is completely toxic -- now that's the LAST thing I need right now -- is yet another toxic work environment, right on the heels of my former toxic work environment, while trying to also exit from an abusive marriage. NO THANKS! I need a supportive work environment and one that is healthy for me. I need something that will be positive and nurturing, not detracting and negative.

UGH!!!!!!! I am beyond frustrated with this process. I have only 3.5 months of unemployment left.

I've had numerous crappy jobs and seven abusive boyfriends. I'm starting to see just how awful my life has been. I've never had a great job that I loved. I have rarely had a healthy relationship. I've had such awful luck in both areas.... yes, I take responsibility of course too, but still... I think I am cursed.

This is the most depressing realization to have to face. My crappy life.

I need to change myself. I need a life overhaul and makeover. I was just feeling very sorry for myself right now. This has ALL got to change - the terrible patterns of toxic work environments and toxic relationships. I cannot take anymore -- at all.

Oh.. well that's disappointing. It's good you're being proactive and researching these companies. See? You're already making smart choices and not getting sucked into the facade of these job roles. It sucks, yes.. and you're working it out. Stay strong and keep applying.

Thank you.

I need to hear positives right now, so I greatly appreciate the positive spin!!!

I feel SO glum. I keep finding positions to apply for, then learn the company culture is toxic. GRRRRRR. There are SO many toxic work environments out there. It's pretty incredulous.

Good jobs are harder to find so it really is about sifting through these seemingly "good" job descriptions in order to get something worthwhile.

Maybe consider on expanding your job search. Can you take on a teaching position within this field.. or start your own business? Maybe that's a long term goal..

Yes, it's a matter of sifting through all the bad apples. Just like trying to find a healthy partner! lol!

I can't teach or build a business right now, unfortunately.

I am apprehensive about online reviews. I sometimes wonder if they are written by disgruntled former employees who got fired or were lazy and didn’t like rules or were toxic themselves. What’s toxic for one person might not be for another. I have this side job that I do on occasion, I once read horrific reviews online and found them funny , I have zero complains whatsoever. They don’t pay much but that’s pretty much the case everywhere. They are extremely accommodating and love me. I really don’t care if other people have complaints. I love my day job and have no serious complaints yet we have few people who biatch all the time about things. That’s why I don’t care about work place reviews. I don’t think they are accurate

I’d probably still go for interviews just for practice

I take them seriously. That’s one job you speak of that luckily turned out well for you. When I read multiple reviews from multiple people all saying the same things, I take it as valid. I’m not taking any chances. I’ve had enough toxic work environments. And when less than 40% of employees approve of the CEO from 500+ people? And when more than five people say it’s a toxic CEO and work culture? I listen.

I feel like I’m being tortured. I’m in a living hell. I want out of my abusive marriage, I’m stuck, and no great job prospects. This is HELL.

I guess you have thought about moving out to live with parents, would they allow that? Obviously not your first choice, but could it be your second?

I would but they have no room for me to live in. It wouldn’t work. None of my friends can take me in either. I’m totally stuck.

I am feeling the same way, my mental health has been ruining my life. I have tried everything to make it right. Today is my birthday and I ruined it once again. I dont know why I feel like this or how to change it but I'm so numb in my relationship. I dont know how to love and be happy its really sad

I wake up every morning with anxiety. I've been taking my "as needed" anti-anxiety pill every single day lately. I have 3.5 months of unemployment benefits left. I've been out of work for 3 months so far. In the 1st month, I learned that I should apply for the same role as I had before, because I get more replies.

But right now, I have zero job prospects in the pipeline. I DO pay attention to the many negative reviews about a company. They DO matter to me. I was going to apply for one job today, then I read the reviews which said the company is failing financially and that jobs are unstable. Two massive rounds of layoffs in 2019 alone. Ok, no thanks. I don't need to get employed only to be unemployed again.

All I need is ONE opportunity, with a company that has mainly positive reviews. As long as there isn't negative review after negative review, then it's fine. But I do need stability too. The last thing I want is to be looking for a job again immediately OR to be laid off yet again.

But I am scared and am very anxious. This is a most anxiety provoking experience.

Silver lining? Recruiters and prospects contact me at random for new opportunities. So I never know what's around the corner on any given day.

Hang in there!

Thanks @Bill3!!!