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MuddyBoots · Sep 23, 2020 at 06:32 PM

How do you avoid or cope with rage? I mean, you have a trigger and the next thing you know the window's broken, there is a hole in the wall, and you're all bruised/cut up, so how do you make that not happen?

WovenGalaxy · Sep 23, 2020 at 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Sapien

How do you avoid or cope with rage? I mean, you have a trigger and the next thing you know the window's broken, there is a hole in the wall, and you're all bruised/cut up, so how do you make that not happen?

I do not experience this type of rage myself, but in terms of anger and impulsive / reactive behavior, I've found that therapy and cultivating skills for that type of impulsive anger help.

Eleny · Sep 25, 2020 at 05:22 PM

Sorry to hear you've been struggling with this.

I'd recommend looking into DBT, it can be helpful for this type of thing.
DBT teaches really helpful skills to manage strong emotions.

Best of luck

EagleTears · Sep 25, 2020 at 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Sapien

How do you avoid or cope with rage? I mean, you have a trigger and the next thing you know the window's broken, there is a hole in the wall, and you're all bruised/cut up, so how do you make that not happen?

You first need to alert yourself for when you're about to go into this frenzy mode. When something happens.. and you get triggered.. I would highly recommend that you get out of the house ASAP, and start jogging... or walking. either way. try to avoid areas to which you can break a window or punch a hole in. When you get angry... start exercising. Walk.. jog... run.. Do as many pushups as you can.. Burn that energy with vigorous exercise.

Bill3 · Sep 26, 2020 at 07:57 PM

Yes, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).

RockyRoad007 · Sep 27, 2020 at 05:22 AM

My problem isn't rage, but when I have gotten severely overwhelmed, I get in my car, and drive where I won't be heard and scream, roar, yell, let loose all the pent up feelings.
The whole idea is to let them out. Without damage. The rage is simply strong feelings wanting/needing to come out.

Find yourself a safe outlet. Some type of strong physical exertion will often do the trick, especially if you can put your all into it.

Bill3 · Sep 27, 2020 at 08:26 AM

A safe outlet is a good idea.

Still, in DBT one works on dealing with issues and emotions before they turn into rage.

A successful therapy dramatically reduces, and even ends, the experiencing of rage.

WovenGalaxy · Sep 27, 2020 at 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Bill3

Yes, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).

I have been through two rounds of DBT and it has helped me immensely.

Fuzzybear · Sep 28, 2020 at 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by RockyRoad007

My problem isn't rage, but when I have gotten severely overwhelmed, I get in my car, and drive where I won't be heard and scream, roar, yell, let loose all the pent up feelings.
The whole idea is to let them out. Without damage. The rage is simply strong feelings wanting/needing to come out.

Find yourself a safe outlet. Some type of strong physical exertion will often do the trick, especially if you can put your all into it.

Michael2Wolves · Oct 01, 2020 at 12:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Sapien

How do you avoid or cope with rage? I mean, you have a trigger and the next thing you know the window's broken, there is a hole in the wall, and you're all bruised/cut up, so how do you make that not happen?

I haven't figured it out yet, and I've been here 40 years.

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Originally Posted by WovenGalaxy

I do not experience this type of rage myself, but in terms of anger and impulsive / reactive behavior, I've found that therapy and cultivating skills for that type of impulsive anger help.

Count yourself fortunate, then. My chest and hands shake, I get hot flashes, and my stomach usually bothers me. Can't afford therapy.

Bill3 · Oct 01, 2020 at 02:13 PM

Here is a good introduction to DBT:

How Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Works

Here is a helpful workbook:

https://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-B...1579238&sr=8-3

There are many DBT videos on youtube.

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MuddyBoots Monster on the Hill Member Since Sep 2020 Location: by the river Posts: 4,096 (SuperPoster!) 3 4,819 hugs given	Sep 23, 2020 at 06:32 PM #1 How do you avoid or cope with rage? I mean, you have a trigger and the next thing you know the window's broken, there is a hole in the wall, and you're all bruised/cut up, so how do you make that not happen?
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Eleny Member Member Since May 2015 Location: Europe Posts: 287 8 65 hugs given	Sep 25, 2020 at 05:22 PM #3 Sorry to hear you've been struggling with this. I'd recommend looking into DBT, it can be helpful for this type of thing. DBT teaches really helpful skills to manage strong emotions. Best of luck
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,924 15 24.1k hugs given	Sep 26, 2020 at 07:57 PM #5 Yes, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,924 15 24.1k hugs given	Sep 27, 2020 at 08:26 AM #7 A safe outlet is a good idea. Still, in DBT one works on dealing with issues and emotions before they turn into rage. A successful therapy dramatically reduces, and even ends, the experiencing of rage.
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,924 15 24.1k hugs given	Oct 01, 2020 at 02:13 PM #11 Here is a good introduction to DBT: How Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Works Here is a helpful workbook: https://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-B...1579238&sr=8-3 There are many DBT videos on youtube.
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