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#1
I do not like having to ''cope'' with being shouted at
The Narcissistic parents were ''wonderful people'' SHOUTING AT ME. And I had to be silent fwiw I do not find ''competitions to see who had the worst parents'' to be funny Nor would I have found it funny at age 10 Respect to all __________________ |
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#2
I don't do well with being shouted at. And I seem unable to walk away when people start shouting at me, which is what I should do. I don't know if there is a way to cope with being shouted at other than walking away. Shouting as a means to communicate in every day life seems wholly unnecessary to me.
I'm sorry you've been shouted at. <3 __________________ What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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#3
I always shout back (louder), probably not the best way to cope. Walking away sounds ideal and staying away until they calm down.
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#4
No one should EVER be shouting at you, Fuzzybear, no matter how angry they may be. There are plenty of other ways to communicate.
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#6
I freak out at shouting even when it's not directed at me.
My coping method is to remove myself from the situation as quickly as possible. |
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#7
The only time shouting is ok is in an emergency and someone is shouting information to you that will help save you from danger.
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There’s a problem though, my mom was shouting at me outside my door, no way I could have escaped
How do you deal with the anxiety we feel after getting shouted at? I feel a strange numbness and pain in my ear and throat, even after three months of that traumatic experience, where my mom was banging the door and crying. Have you faced something similar? How did you deal with it? Last edited by Blah nlah; Nov 02, 2023 at 11:00 AM.. |
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One of my supervisors shouts all the time by default, I’m not sure if she’s hard of hearing. Another colleague asked her not to shout and she answered that she’s tried to talk more softly but she can’t. I struggle to understand this - how can someone have no volume control?
I like her as a person but I notice I’m rattled after working a shift with her. Trying to zone out but not easy. Shouting feels so abrasive to me, even if there’s no bad intentions. |
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Yes, to be consistently shouted at as a child (a child) can really wreak havoc on the devaloping nerves. It's so sad Fuzzy. I'm sorry. I could never bring myself to yell at a child. I wish people were more aware of what they are doing.
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