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Default Sep 24, 2020 at 03:07 PM
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I do not like having to ''cope'' with being shouted at

The Narcissistic parents were ''wonderful people'' SHOUTING AT ME.

And I had to be silent

fwiw I do not find ''competitions to see who had the worst parents'' to be funny Nor would I have found it funny at age 10

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Default Sep 24, 2020 at 05:31 PM
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I don't do well with being shouted at. And I seem unable to walk away when people start shouting at me, which is what I should do. I don't know if there is a way to cope with being shouted at other than walking away. Shouting as a means to communicate in every day life seems wholly unnecessary to me.

I'm sorry you've been shouted at. <3

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Default Sep 25, 2020 at 01:17 PM
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I always shout back (louder), probably not the best way to cope. Walking away sounds ideal and staying away until they calm down.
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Default Sep 25, 2020 at 01:23 PM
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No one should EVER be shouting at you, Fuzzybear, no matter how angry they may be. There are plenty of other ways to communicate.

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Default Sep 25, 2020 at 03:11 PM
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I do not like having to ''cope'' with being shouted at

The Narcissistic parents were ''wonderful people'' SHOUTING AT ME.

And I had to be silent

fwiw I do not find ''competitions to see who had the worst parents'' to be funny Nor would I have found it funny at age 10

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I always hated being shout at. I always found myself publicly humiliate.
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Default Sep 25, 2020 at 05:42 PM
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I freak out at shouting even when it's not directed at me.

My coping method is to remove myself from the situation as quickly as possible.
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Default Sep 29, 2020 at 12:01 AM
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The only time shouting is ok is in an emergency and someone is shouting information to you that will help save you from danger.
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Default Nov 02, 2023 at 10:09 AM
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There’s a problem though, my mom was shouting at me outside my door, no way I could have escaped
How do you deal with the anxiety we feel after getting shouted at?
I feel a strange numbness and pain in my ear and throat, even after three months of that traumatic experience, where my mom was banging the door and crying.
Have you faced something similar?
How did you deal with it?

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Default Nov 08, 2023 at 09:54 AM
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One of my supervisors shouts all the time by default, I’m not sure if she’s hard of hearing. Another colleague asked her not to shout and she answered that she’s tried to talk more softly but she can’t. I struggle to understand this - how can someone have no volume control?

I like her as a person but I notice I’m rattled after working a shift with her. Trying to zone out but not easy. Shouting feels so abrasive to me, even if there’s no bad intentions.
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Default Nov 08, 2023 at 02:15 PM
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Yes, to be consistently shouted at as a child (a child) can really wreak havoc on the devaloping nerves. It's so sad Fuzzy. I'm sorry. I could never bring myself to yell at a child. I wish people were more aware of what they are doing.

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