haunted house

How do I respect someone that disrespects themselves?
Especially family, that are unavailable, defensive, and reckless?
The legal, and moral implications, musts, shoulds, and conditioning that go with it. How do you process the indifference?

This is so difficult, and something I can relate to. I think the first step is respecting yourself and not letting their behaviours become your own problem, then secondly, being dead honest...even if that means they push you away. I think that is the most respectful thing to do.
I don't know your situation, but with legality being involved it sounds very serious. I have had to involve police due to the behaviour of a family member, my brother, and recently there have been some issues with him hoarding and potentially hindering the sale of an inherited property. I was honest with him about the implications, and that I would have to take legal action if he did hinder the sale. I explained that I had to do this for my own sanity, it would be better for us all in the long run, and that I was giving him fair warning. He doesn't respect my decisions, but I respect him enough to give him opportunities to do the right thing, and if he chooses to behave disrespectfully, and push me away, I can respect that is his choice. It's hard to process. Therapy helps me process these things. Talking about things on here helps too.

I wished that I knew.