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When I struggle I'm always alone. It's a choice and I like it because it makes me strong and makes me grow a lot. However, I have so much anger in those moments... you wouldn't believe... I'm like I want to kill the world... I look at everyone as if they were my enemy... anyone in similar situation has any idea how to cool it down for my own sake?
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This is how my brother is right now. He says he needs to be alone because of his anger. I don't know there is anything I can do, or what he is doing to make it better, it seems to get worse the longer he is alone and fueling it by researching about conspiracies, and forming ever darker theories. I almost got him to laugh yesterday, but not quite.
I get very very angry at times. Not like I want to kill, but like I want to turn everything upside down.
I pray, and write. I have started writing with both hands since I listened to John Bradshaw's Homecoming. It helped with my anger (which was bottled for years and years).
Hypno was the first thing that really helped (I was really too scared to face my own anger before I had hypnotherapy).
I don't know how you'll do it, but I hope you can find a safe way of unbottling it
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I almost got him to laugh yesterday, but not quite.
How? I mean you told a joke to an angry guy and it worked?
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How? I mean you told a joke to an angry guy and it worked?
I just put em up like Scrappy-Doo and sez "I'll av ya if you want a fight, bring it on." He wasn't in the worst mood, cause we'd just been moving some furniture. He's only really positively responsive to helping other people with manual tasks once in a while.
He had a smirk, and said "I would, it's not personal I just want to fight everyone."
Had a hug too. He's pushed nearly everyone away, and I'm not sure if his partner is supporting him any more, or if she's become hyper-critical. It breaks my heart seeing him that way, cause I've been there myself and I know it's scary. We've had a nightmare growing up, and a the last few years especially. It isn't two years since he found our dad passed away unexpectedly, and there's loads of rubbish to sort through, and work out.

When's the last time something made you laugh?
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When's the last time something made you laugh?
Few months ago? Actually your line made me smile. I'm a writer, so it's easy for me to picture the situation. I liked it a lot

I have this system that whenever I'm working on a story I distance myself from the world and I go in deep… like a workaholic. Just me and my insane quality standards. Then when I get stuck (which always happens) I wake up in this dark hole and I feel so miserable... after a while it actually ends up pushing me and I find the way, so it's great, but I must do something with that anger that bursts out of me in the process.
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What about finding some ways to relieve Your anger? Some yoga or relaxation techniques may Help. Perhaps buying a punching bag as Well. SEnding many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH You, @MisterPaul, Your Family, Your FriEnds And ALL of Your Loved Ones! Keep fighting And keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, Ok?!
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Few months ago? Actually your line made me smile. I'm a writer, so it's easy for me to picture the situation. I liked it a lot

I have this system that whenever I'm working on a story I distance myself from the world and I go in deep… like a workaholic. Just me and my insane quality standards. Then when I get stuck (which always happens) I wake up in this dark hole and I feel so miserable... after a while it actually ends up pushing me and I find the way, so it's great, but I must do something with that anger that bursts out of me in the process.
It sounds like a process I am quite familiar with. I find with writing I'm exploring concepts and possibilities. If there are big things that make you angry, maybe you can explore all the ways these things could be righted, but accepting powerlessness to change certain things in reality can mournful.
It might be easier to stay angry than it is to grieve. Life's hard, especially if you have a lot of anger and grief to process. There are't any short cuts. You have to express it somehow, or it does just burst out. Hypno can make it much easier to manage though. If you're worried about extreme outbursts, and getting in touch with your sense of humour can make EVERYTHING easier!
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Hey @MisterPaul,

I can absolutely relate to having many times (and there will be more times, I know that) of very deep anger - a wishing for the annihilation of the human race (but not the animals, they can stay.) It's exactly as you say - 'as if everyone were my enemy' - and that's actually a mindset I have always just below the surface anyway. But the anger side of it, the hateful state, is a very woeful state to fall into, very painful, yes. I don't like it because, in my case, it lasts too long, until I start entertaining ideas of departing the world once and for all. I appreciate your post because you're the first person I've read on here to talk about that kind of anger.

The only things that work for me in 'cooling it down' are the solitude and to constantly focus on letting it go. All the while distracting myself with things I find interesting on the internet, and then finally sleep. After that I awaken and I'm back to my normal 'happy' self.
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