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Legendary
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Dec 27, 2020 at 07:10 AM
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I reached a point with the deep hurts where the feelings of anger lifted, and that felt so much better to me than the burn. This came to be by either the person reached out to me or I did to them, or I had to come to terms with it and move forward by myself.
When I empathize with the person to see why they acted the hurtful way they did, I felt some forgiveness. (I am not talking about physical abuse here, that’s a different story). I have not ever fully forgiven the deepest cuts, and I never forget them either. But, I may continue the relationship, try to act like it didn’t happen, and try to make things improve. Those few really deep wounds are still festering tbh. But the repercussions of harboring anger means I have lost the hurtful person forever and they were my close family! So, I’ll bend over backwards to hang on rather than sever ties for me is the worse pain. As you can see...I struggle with this too. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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Grand Magnate
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Dec 27, 2020 at 11:02 AM
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