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Nov 18, 2009 at 11:22 PM
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I wasn't diagnosed with this, but in my life, it seems like everyone wants to be my mother.
I think it' s because I act like a baby---always insecure and needy. I do this without trying. I want to stop! How? B. __________________ The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness!  |
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Nov 18, 2009 at 11:26 PM
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You post reminds me so much of myself. I am always very needy, etc too
Even my husband, I fear, feels more like my care-taker than my companion. __________________ It is a miracle that I have survived thus far and I strive to help others see miracles in every day life.
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Nov 18, 2009 at 11:30 PM
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yes, Dane acts very motherly toward me.
Sometimes I like it, sometimes I wish he'd stop. B. __________________ The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness! |
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Nov 18, 2009 at 11:31 PM
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I think a lot, if not all, of us, attract certain types, whether they are good or bad for us. You seem to be saying that they type you attract is not good for you, in the way you like to be treated. Well, I'm not sure why this is, since I don't know you, but if you have correctly answered your own question, then it would seem that you need to work on strengthening your independence and reducing your insecurities. You can do this, by challenging yourself with exercise, a fairly demanding job, taking charge of your life until you are in a position that you don't need others. Then you should attract less dominating people. You seem to have good insight and to be willing to admit to your weaknesses. That is a big step. Caring About You - billieJ
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Nov 21, 2009 at 05:57 PM
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Have you tired therapy to work through this?
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Nov 23, 2009 at 11:43 AM
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can't afford therapy, not to mention I choose not to go to therapy; been there done that. Abused there; can't trust them anymore.
thanks anyway. __________________ The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness! |
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Nov 23, 2009 at 11:44 AM
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Also, therapy seems to reinforce, for me dependency issues.
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Nov 23, 2009 at 12:09 PM
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One way I attract maternal/parental people in my life is by making the diclosure of problems I am having the focus of conversations.
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Nov 23, 2009 at 12:59 PM
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i alwys seem 2 atract ppl hoo r dummer thin mee...........but thin wut kan u expct i AM teh smrtest aftir all.
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Nov 24, 2009 at 04:15 PM
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I hope not, they are not dumb, just struggling.
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Nov 24, 2009 at 04:18 PM
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Nov 25, 2009 at 02:00 PM
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I am the total opposite... I am needy and insecure and want people to take care of me but I always seem to meet the types who want to leave me so I always end up all alone
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Nov 25, 2009 at 02:13 PM
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psychee.... I don't know, I guess I am just vulnerable and some people can sense that so they first pretend to care then after they get what they want, they're gone, maybe I'm just being paranoid
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Nov 25, 2009 at 02:50 PM
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Nov 25, 2009 at 05:35 PM
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Dec 01, 2009 at 09:01 PM
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yes, psychee, I am moving away from talking to everyone about problems; cause then ppl think they have to "fix" me.
B. __________________ The idea of a soul mate is an ILLUSION. In reality, we must learn to be our own best friend/partner. Then if love comes to us, we will already be whole. All that love can do, at that point, is enhance our wholeness! |
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