advertisement
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 12-20-2013, 09:27 AM   #11
Clara22
Magnate
 
Clara22's Avatar
Clara22 trying
 
Member Since: Apr 2013
Posts: 2,188
5 yr Member
5,535 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: Trouble setting boundaries with others

Hi
I found these articles and sites about the issue:
Empathy | Greater Good
Compassion over empathy could help prevent emotional burnout (Wired UK)
Compassion Definition | Greater Good
Is Overactive Empathy Ruining Your Life?
Empathy from Birth | Greater Good
__________________
Clara
Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out. Vaclav Havel
Clara22 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:

advertisement
Old 12-20-2013, 10:32 AM   #12
Punto Bobo
Member
 
Punto Bobo's Avatar
Punto Bobo has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2013
Location: CA
Posts: 50
5 yr Member
45 hugs
given
Default Re: Trouble setting boundaries with others

thanks... i see now that 'empathy' taken to the extreme, is really just another form of not paying attention to my own needs...of not feeling worthy...another form of feeling like i do not matter....

Bingo, Chloe! How many counselors have asked me repeatedly, but what about YOU? I would be describing other people, concentrating on them. At its worst, I wasn't getting dressed or doing laundry! I could easily get lost in concentrating on others. I still struggle to direct thoughts to what supports me! Recently, lying in bed trying to go back to sleep, I was trying to concentrate on the Lord's Prayer or Hail Marys, but my brain was writing a letter to someone explaining how unfair it all is! I've written that letter now, but -- sheesh! -- what a price I paid!
Punto Bobo is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 12-20-2013, 06:22 PM   #13
Chloepatra
Member
Chloepatra has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2013
Posts: 57
5 yr Member
127 hugs
given
Default Re: Trouble setting boundaries with others

Punto, I so appreciate the specific examples you share from your life!

Clara, those links were very useful for me, and I imagine will help others here, too.

Thank you, both so much.
Just discussing this issue on here helped me deal with some more boundary setting I needed to do in my life today... breathing into the ok-ness that I need to take care of me, too...if I am to be able to look into the mirror and see a whole person looking back.
Chloepatra is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 12:38 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2020, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

advertisement

Psych Central Forums

Psych Central is the leading mental health website, overseen by mental health professionals since 1995.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.
Please read the full disclaimer.