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ReneeTx
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Location: Richardson
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Hi, Im 54 yrs old I had a best friend for over 30 yrs. I have helped her raise her 2 kids to adults and then helped raise 2 of her grandbabies for the 1st 12 yrs of their life. We are no longer friends as of March 2015. I have moved a few towns over and her daughter has taken her kids totally away from me. I lived and breathed for those kids. I picked them up every day from schoo. I bought them things they needed and didn't need. I adore them. Im heart broken and its now been 6 months since I have seen either of them. I cry every day and day's like today I just lay around and wonder why Im even here. I have been changed from one antidepressent to anthother. I go back to Theorpist a week from Monday. She says I also have ADHD and is going to put me on medictation for that. Its seems all I want to do it stay at home and feel sorry for myself.
It didn't help that during the huge depression I SHOPPED and got myself into a major hole . Anyways Im back on prozac and a new pill to be added for the ADHD all I can do is pray that the meds help cuz right now I feel like I don't belong anywhere and noone would even care or miss me . Thanks Renee |
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Hi, Renee
I am sorry that the relationship with your best friend and her family has broken down. You obviously love kids to bits and have a lot of love to give. So I was wondering whether you would consider working in a creche organization catering for preschoolers, or indeed in a children's home. In a children's home. There is such a need for kids to receive love. Doing that would give you a purpose in life. There are also children's charities out there that might attract you. This would give you purpose and meaning in life. Also reconnecting with anything else that really fired you up in earlier days. would add to this feeling of meaning and purpose. It does take medications a couple of weeks, at least to work in. Do try to keep your mind busy doing things to take the focus away from depression. There would be debt consolidation agencies that could help you with what you owe. Take care. I hope and pray your week will be really good. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis |
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I'm really sorry for the loss of your friendship. I know this has to be a hard time for you. I'm glad you are taking care of yourself by seeking treatment. It is a good choice.
One idea might be to check with your local schools and see if they have a program where volunteers go in and read to kids. It might give you a purpose to help yourself and the kids. I hope your pain eases with time. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk __________________ Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin "Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." -Buddha
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I'm sorry you had a falling out with your old friend and can't see those kids for the time being. I don't know you, but it sounds like you played a big role in those kids lives. They will surely not forget that. It's sad and sometimes you just have to be sad for a while. I think you coming and posting here is a good sign for your recovery. It means you are searching. I think you should keep searching, keep actively finding ways to feel better and re-connect with people. I think that just the process of actively trying things helps in itself. You can find some ideas in here, for instance http://forums.psychcentral.com/4262681-post105.html Keep in touch - vital |
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Can the relationship be repaired?
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Hi I know your pain.
I;m 50 and have lost my only son to parental alienation. I have no contact with, I tried calling his dad he does not take my calls--- he is a narccisit. The last time I saw my son was in February,he was so cold to me, hardly looked a me/ He is only 15. This last week because school started I could not stop thinking of him. I cry everyday too. The pain is unbearable! I wonder why I;m even here. My own son has walked away from me for no reason. I ask God for strength to get by each day but really I have lost all hope and dont know why I am here. My pain is so raw. Take care |
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hi Skybluegirl
I'm sorry that the relationship with your son has broken down. You are doing the right thing praying to God for strength. Just keep praying to him that he will make your son see the need to get in contact with you. Persistent prayer will bring the right result. So don't give up hope. Perhaps having a purpose in life such as a charitable cause, or reconnecting with something that fired you up in earlier times will give meaning to life. How about medication is it doing a good job for you? Are you seeing a counselor to help you with this problem? Do try to keep your mind busy doing things to take the focus away from feeling bad. I hope and pray everything gets much better for you soon. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis |
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I feel you. I'm 59 and a survivor of SV in 2 marriages, the last one was a sociopath. I escaped with only the clothes on my back and as soon as I did, ex #1 cane back using my kids as weapons. My twin boys did the same to me as your son. 5 years ago. I've tried everything I can think of but nothing has worked. I can't go on this way and have to consider walking away but the pain just thinking of doing this is more than I can take. To make matters worse, I'm a natural empath who feels everything to extremes. My crying is so deep it scares me. My son actually speaks to me abusively . I can't allow myself to be treated this way but leaving my babies ?? Thinking I change my name and run away to new place without memories where no one can find me and start a new life. I hate knowing another knows what this feels like but at the same time, knowing someone knows my pain helps a little. Hugging you with my heart. . |
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