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Trig Jan 15, 2019 at 03:31 PM
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I was talking to some people the other day about something very painful that I have rarely shared about. It was in a semi public place. Another acquaintance joined in and got all the attention, so I was unable to share the triggering to me and hurtful to me topic I was talking about. It was about abuse, “family” being profoundly abusive and rejecting of me... The same or similar thing often happens to me irl, especially at “family” gatherings. Because I’m not “normal” or for some other, unknown, reason, others are listened to, but I am not. I do not like this.

Some smart *** said to me once that my “lament has again been heard”... if i had such severe ocd that I repeated myself every ****ing day I would still not deserve such disrespect And I do not appreciate that or any disrespect one bit (Not anyone here)

I keep being given this same “life lesson” - it doesn’t matter how distressed, or even in “crisis” I am... someone else is always more “important” and “worth support” ... this “life lesson” does not make sense, since I always try to be supportive and respectful to others. I’m tired of life. Very tired.

(Not about anyone here)

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I'm here, my friend. I'm sorry, Fuzzy.

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Thank you, my friend So leigheas

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Im so sorry . life is unfair
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Default Jan 15, 2019 at 04:32 PM
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My dear Fuzzy...

I had similar experiences with family members too.

In the end, I let go...
It ended some of the ongoing torture
But not all, as they never gave up trying to force their view point onto me...

Why do they not listen?
The broken record technique is one of the most waring and tiring forms of abuse used by bullies...

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Red face Jan 15, 2019 at 05:15 PM
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... Fuzzybear ...

Hearing & Listening are two different things ...

Shame on the jerk that made such a heartless comment about your pain and suffering!

We are listening here, Fuzzybear ...

With much empathy and compassion for what you are going through too!

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Default Jan 15, 2019 at 06:46 PM
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fuzzy we may never be listened to by family...
I don't try anymore with most all of my family..
they just tend to trash me....they don't understand
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Fuzzybear, we are not choosing family they are given to us.

Try to find someone who will have open ear for you.
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Another acquaintance joined in and got all the attention...


How often have I yielded my speaking to a pushy intruder? I simply go quiet.

Well, that doesn't happen often nowadays; I'm rather isolated. I don't miss those occasions.


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Default Jan 15, 2019 at 07:37 PM
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Fuzzy, I learned the hard way my family is just never going to be there for me in the way I need emotionally. I have distanced myself from them in that regard because of that.

Do you think that would be a good or even feasible solution for you?

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