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That sounds like an incredible plan! Good luck with it!

Thank you so much!

I started to read the "A Gentle Introduction to Beating Procrastination and Getting Focused (How to be productive, beat procrastination and achieve better focus on your work)" before bedtime. (I use a kindle so it was delivered at once).

It gave me some hope. The author presented himself as a former chronic procrastinator. If he could, so can I (at least I hope so). My problem is something more than procrastination. I suppose it has to do with different inner defense mechanisms that combined put me out of track.

I look forward to fight it (am prepared to fall and to climb back again in the process of having more balanced weeks).
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Emptied the trash, put all my groceries away and opened a package. Will look for printer ink tomorrow.
Took a shower, opened all the small packages, did some cleaning in my bedroom and worked on my kitchen. Today I have a doctor's appointment. That's my primary focus. Next I'll clean one of the litter boxes.
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today:

shower-yes

- order shopping- yes

-trivia- no

- check emails- no

- creative writing- no

- open door number 7 on the advent calendar- yes

- watch the dvd leant to me by amy- no

- find something for dinner- having fish fingers
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Took a shower, opened all the small packages, did some cleaning in my bedroom and worked on my kitchen. Today I have a doctor's appointment. That's my primary focus. Next I'll clean one of the litter boxes.
Kudos! That’s a lot to get accomplished!
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Plans for Friday:

1. Have mattress delivered and set up.
2. Run errands.
3. Make calls.
4. Clean the house.
5. Affirmations/visualization/meditation - done.
6. Take brother to run errands - done.
7. Pet care - done.
8. Purchase online groceries.
9. Make casserole for dinner.

I hope everybody has a peaceful, productive day.
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Here we go again:

After a few good days I have been stuck for two days. What do I do to be able to have these "down falls"? How can I learn to act otherwise?

I have now read (not in detail ofcource) '71 Mindfulness exercises for living in the present moment' + 'How to live in the present moment: 35
Exercises and Tools (+ Quotes)'. I have bought "A Gentle Introduction to Beating Procrastination and Getting Focused (How to be productive, beat procrastination and achieve better focus on your work)".


For the moment I have got a few ideas. I will not allow myself to go to bed again after breakfast.I will set a a fixed time to go to bed and I will have a daily walk in the morning whatever the weather is.

I will start with my new morning ritual tomorrow (Friday):

First day with the new program:

- 07:30 Up when I hear the alarm (at once)
- Prayer
- Connect PC to power
- Recharge Mobile
- Make coffee and breakfast
- Medication
- Physical exercises for 10 minutes
- Breakfast and Lamp (light bulb) 45 minutes only
- Find an object to focus on for two minutes (Mindfulness) to make myself ready to go on with the day
- Hygiene (Focus on this activity only)
- Prepare for the walk
- 40 minutes walk
- Buy walking stics for my usual hiking tours each week
- Grocery

- Lunch
- Find an object to focus on for two minutes (Mindfulness) to make myself ready to go on with the rest of day
- Write plan for the rest of the day
- ...............................
- ..............................
- ...............................
- 22:30 Calm down before bedtime (let stressful thougts go)
- Active relaxation (use a program)
- Around 23:00 (11:00PM) hopefully go to sleep

Good hopes and wishes for all of you!
I have met my goals and am satisfied with what I have done. (The bedtime rituals are for later to day).


My experience is that when one starts to work on a project one gives all one has at the beginning of the project. The problem is to be able to continue when the first feelings of happiness for being able have calmed down. I hope to make it!


Plans for Saturday:



Second day with the new program:

- 07:30 Up when I hear the alarm (at once)
- Prayer
- Connect PC to power
- Recharge Mobile
- Make coffee and breakfast
- Medication
- Physical exercises for 10 minutes
- Breakfast and Lamp (light bulb) 45 minutes only
- Find an object to focus on for two minutes (Mindfulness) to make myself ready to go on with the day
- Hygiene (Focus on this activity only)
- Prepare for the walk
- 40 minutes walk
- Lunch
- Find an object to focus on for two minutes (Mindfulness) to make myself ready to go on with the rest of day
- Dishes
- Write plan for the rest of the day
- ...............................
- ..............................
- ...............................
- 22:30 Calm down before bedtime (let stressful thougts go)
- Active relaxation (use a program)
- Around 23:00 (11:00PM) hopefully go to sleep

Good hopes and wishes for all of you! Looking for accountability partners to motivate to get things done while depressed #3
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I have met my goals and am satisfied with what I have done. (The bedtime rituals are for later to day).


My experience is that when one starts to work on a project one gives all one has at the beginning of the project. The problem is to be able to continue when the first feelings of happiness for being able have calmed down. I hope to make it!


I feel frustrated! Yesterday I became so tired that I almost fell asleep before my head was on the pillow. I was not able to do the active relaxation (use a program) because of tiredness. When I woke up this morning, I was very tired after breakfast and it was too dark outside to go for a walk to benefit my winter-depression (SAD). I went to bed again, fell asleep and am now sitting here and wonder about what I shall do.

I cannot make plans that are too difficult for my "disorder". On the other side it is when I go to bed again or have to break plans because of tiredness, it is then I fall off my own good track in the recovery process.

How do I solve this?

I think that since the SAD is real, I have to adapt to that, no quick solution. May be I have to rest when I need it (and at the same time break the "program"). If so, the real problem has to be how to continue after resting and waking up drowsy?

I have decided that perhaps it is an idea to have some sort of a "passing through ritual" to help me go on afterward?

I will try this: Coffee and some food after rest. Tell myself that I am an OK person even if a lot of thoughts pups up in my head after rest, - it is part of my condition. Then I will lay cabal (it sounds silly, I know), but I have found out from before that to lay cabal can help me to shift focus. So when focus is taken off the situation with a lot of thoughts that stand in the way for progression, I will decide what to do for the rest of the day and then use an object to touch and consentrate on (Mindfulness) to break what is already past of the day into being able to use the rest of the day.

I want to try that.

Forgive me for this long post, but I feel that it helps me to "talk to you", my friends on the thread, and at the same time I hope that it inspires you to think about how to solve your own situations when you feel stuck. The solution is always unique for each one of us, but it has to be to look for the real problem. My problem was not the rest, but how to continue after the rest. Instead of telling ourselves that we are stupid, lazy, hopeless or whatever, it is a good idea to ty to figure out what is the real problem (in the here and now) and find our unique way to solve it.

Thank you for reading!

Good hopes and wishes for each one of you!
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I wish you much success in your endeavors to overcome the obstacles in your path. Your plans and solutions to challenges are always so well thought out.
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I notice that I always seem to be doing, doing, doing with not so much being so I’m going to work on balancing my plans to be a little bit of both.

Plans for Saturday:

1. Run errands.
2. Continue cleaning house.
3. Pet care.
4. Relax with book on the meta-physical.
5. Extended visualization session.
6. Meditate.
7. Cook casserole.
8. Walk dog twice for 20 minutes.
9. Practice doing everything today with mindfulness.

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I wish you much success in your endeavors to overcome the obstacles in your path. Your plans and solutions to challenges are always so well thought out.

Thank you so much! I hope it works. It was a relief to find out that the problem isn't to rest when I'm tired, but what to do after the rest (to help myself not to become prisoner of my own thoughts). Some days what to do after the rest can just be to use Netflix (let go of my many thoughts and focus on something else)the rest of the day, while it may be a walk, do housework or whatever another day.

All in all it seems to indicate that (self-) acceptance is the best way to live always, but especially in the winter time when the energy level is lower than usual!
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