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once in a cafe a woman next to me noticed I didn't have a drink and asked me if I wanted one.

I told her I didn't have money so couldn't get one
awkward silence for a moment..

then she goes

oh, no... don't be daft, I was offering to buy you one

oh, right..... I see

I ended up saying thank you and she got me a coke
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the woman I knew nothing about who took me to her house when my mother abandoned me at a train station

she didn't have to, she could have just left me on the platform but she didn't
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I know that many of us feel isolated and very lonely when we are depressed. I though it could be helpful to recall and reflect on times when strangers have shown us empathy and compassion. This also helps to remind us that the world is not full of bad, destructive people. Ten minutes of watching "The News" can quickly give that impression. Are there some awful things happening in the world? No doubt. But there is also a great deal of goodness.

So, I will start the thread by recalling a kindness shown to me by a stranger:

Many years ago, I had a case of shingles. I had never had it before. I lived alone at the time and did not have any close friends. My family lived far away and they are not the type of people I turn to for support. I had recently survived a major trauma in my life. The shingles appeared to be getting worse and I was frightened. I went to the ER because I knew that shingles can be dangerous if not kept under control (can spread to the eye etc).

I was sitting alone in the ER waiting room. The physical pain, nausea, and dizziness were intense and I was anxious about what was happening to my body. But the worst part was my feeling of deep loneliness. I had my head down because I was sobbing...as quietly as possible...I try very hard never to cry in front of others. But those tears kept coming because I was overwhelmed. After only a few minutes in the waiting room, I felt a gentle hand on my shoulder.

I looked up and saw a woman with a kind and concerned face. She handed me a box of tissues and quietly asked: "Is there anything I can do for you, honey?" The tears kept rolling down my cheeks. I took the box of tissues and said: "would you mind sitting next to me for a minute? Could you hold my hand?" She immediately did what I asked without a word. No judgment. No unsolicited advice. No prying for information.

We sat like that until my name was called to see the doctor. It turned out that I was having a bad reaction to my shingles medication and needed a new one. The ER doc resolved that quickly after giving me a few condescending comments and zero empathy. Who do you think really helped me most that day? The stranger who was under no obligation to help me at all. But she brought a box of tissues and compassion.

I didn't give you folks all the details of my life back then (too sad) but I felt like I was alone in hell. And then this wonderful stranger showed me a kindness which I have never forgotten. To this day, years later, I am grateful for her...she gave me hope and comfort when I was frightened and alone. May she always have the help she needs...wherever she is now.

Would anyone else like to share a story from a kind stranger?

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This is such a beautiful story. Im probably reading it much later than you posted it but thank you so very much anyway. I hope youre on the mend now.
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This is such a beautiful story. Im probably reading it much later than you posted it but thank you so very much anyway. I hope youre on the mend now.
Thank you very much Mopey! That day was a very long time ago in my life; I am much better now thanks I mentioned it here because I love to remind people of the good acts of others. Your kind reply is much appreciated. I hope you are well too
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I was shopping at a store and couldn't find a particular item they usually carry. While I was searching for the item, a sales associate gently approached and asked if she could help. This naturally evolved into a conversation about the brand's efforts to help folks who are struggling in other countries. I really enjoyed the exchange of ideas. Then the associate commented that she loved my necklace and found it very striking. How kind! We were interrupted by another associate...no problem...they were busy. The original associate later returned and thanked me for the chat. She was a genuine and warm person and a complete stranger!
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I've been shown a fair amount of kindness over the years, but now, even a smile or a 'hello' or a car stopping on the street to let me cross the road, gives rise to a sense of gratitude within me that never used to be there before. I think having been on my own for so long has made me aware of the subtleties of kindness.
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I've been shown a fair amount of kindness over the years, but now, even a smile or a 'hello' or a car stopping on the street to let me cross the road, gives rise to a sense of gratitude within me that never used to be there before. I think having been on my own for so long has made me aware of the subtleties of kindness.

AGREED! The smallest connections or courtesies can go a very long way. You sound like a very mindful person
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AGREED! The smallest connections or courtesies can go a very long way. You sound like a very mindful person
Thanks, HopefullyLost1211. I try to be :-)

I really like the threads you've created in this forum, as well. Positive self reflection and healing. Very, very important on many levels, and that's a reflection of your own compassion and kindness, too.

Keep up the good work, HopefullyLost1211.

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Thanks, HopefullyLost1211. I try to be :-)

I really like the threads you've created in this forum, as well. Positive self reflection and healing. Very, very important on many levels, and that's a reflection of your own compassion and kindness, too.

Keep up the good work, HopefullyLost1211.

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Thank you very much Mote.of.Soul. I wanted to create threads which would encourage myself and others to be positive even in the midst of our struggles. It makes me very happy to learn that you find the threads useful. Much appreciated feedback. By the way, you are welcome to call me Hope if you like. Some folks on PC call me that for short
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Someone saw with carrying several heavy grocery bags and held the elevator door for me. Then I got a big warm smile and a "have a great day!"
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