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Grand Magnate
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Jan 26, 2019 at 03:34 PM
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Why am I here...
A different egg or sperm and I would not suffer so... Maybe it would have made no difference because I would of had the same parents.... Would a stronger egg or sperm have been able to cope better? |
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Jan 26, 2019 at 05:52 PM
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Jan 26, 2019 at 09:37 PM
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Being depressed doesn’t mean you’re weak. Getting through depression takes a great deal of strength.
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Jan 27, 2019 at 12:03 AM
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Hang in there Thirty shades please, and keep pluggin' away. Who knows - a different sperm and you could've wound up in a worse life. I guess I'm trying to say, every cloud has a silver lining :/
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Jan 27, 2019 at 05:27 AM
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thirty shades....suffering..
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Jan 27, 2019 at 06:41 AM
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I was not the child she wanted. She wanted a dolly she could have control over. I cried as a baby, baby TS new she was not loved... She has passed now but all my life she would refer to that time saying "It is a wonder we both survived." |
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Jan 27, 2019 at 11:09 AM
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Since then, I've had difficulty because she was so controlling and uncaring that in many ways my life revolved around her. I am trying to find my way but there are so many obstacles. I have recently ordered a book on CEN - Childhood Emotional Neglect - and its affects. Have you visited that forum here at PC? |
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Jan 27, 2019 at 04:34 PM
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Jan 28, 2019 at 12:30 AM
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Honestly .. when the thought comes in your head "I am not the child she wanted" reword it "She was not the mother I wanted either .. but, none of us get exactly what we want from people because nobody is perfect"
Childhood emotional neglect leaves scars on us that never totally go away, but we can learn to use them for our betterment rather than our detriment. First thing is learning how to re-route those negative messages you hear though. For instance, some of mine were: "You will never amount to anything." "You are a disappointment." I had to change those things to "I can do what I choose to put an effort in." "You disappointed me too, but we both survived." Then just pushed through until I understood those things to be true. I wrote out my feelings as to what had happened and how it had happened and what I would like to have happen so I could move on. Things like that helped me heal. Later you find ways to give yourself strength and/or purpose using that past hurt. It helps heal you further and empowers you too. ❤ __________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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Jan 28, 2019 at 05:11 AM
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When we are suffering it is a great comfort to know, we are not alone... I hate that others suffer too. I am thankful that we all have this place to meet, share and support each other. 
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Jan 28, 2019 at 04:27 PM
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