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This morning my dad showed up at my place at 8 am without being invited . i was still a sleep . he used spare key to let himself in . he said he sent a text to say he was on his way but I was asleep so obviously i did not know . my place was a little messy . all he did was critisize me. Then he saw i drank a couple of beers last night and he asked me if my new years reslution was to become an alcoholic as well as stuffing my face with food. He wasn't joking . he was annoyed and left promtly. Im tired of it all. Im fed up being judged and critisized by family members. Ugh
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This is not ok. Why does he have a key ? I would change the locks and set some boundaries.
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When i got my keys , i was given 3. He took 2 keys without asking me and said in case i lose my key . this is not the first time he arrived at mine without me knowing while im asleep and let himself in . my mum treats me even worse than him ( they are separated ) but me and my mum fell out on boxing day because she was screaming at me and i had enough. Im so sick of how family members try to judge me and dictate my life for me . im really struggling with this . its harder for me to achieve my goals when all this happens all the time . as for setting boundaries im kind of scared. My family members make me feel like a child or a disobidient dog . im 37 years of age.
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My older brother phoned me once to shout at me because i don't go out much . i have agaraphobia and social phobia among other things . i guess they have no understanding of mental health
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If your dad doesn’t pay your bills he has no right to a key. And even then... it’s still a bit much to ask for a key if he IS paying bills. It’s very hard to draw boundaries with difficult family members. In my experience, it’s their way or no way at all.
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No he doesn't pay my bills . I'm planning to move far away . then they will have to leave me alone
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