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Default Jan 24, 2019 at 12:12 AM
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So I decided I'm going to make one post and just add my vents instead of making a new post for each one.

I'm finding it hard to push through the days. With everything that has been happening and stuff that keeps piling up.

An assistant manager where I work has hit my last nerve today. He keeps butting into my sales and generally acting like I don't know what I am doing. He was lucky today when he butted into one of my sales the district managers were in the store, so I had to watch my mouth. Next time it happens, he is going to hear it a lot worse than I've been giving him. Today he stayed for an hour after he signed out for the day. It seems I don't know how to handle deliveries and the whopping 2 customers we had at the time.

I'm ok with getting fired at this point. The stupidity that keeps happening has gotten out of hand. I was yelled at by 5 customers today because other people didn't do their jobs. things like forgetting to order parts, forgetting to send parts just to name a couple. I did my best to help these customers and thanks to my luck, there was at least one complaint with my name on it. So when I get a talking to about it, I will make sure the bosses know what they can do with the complaint.
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I hope if you do get fired, or perhaps quit (?), you'll be able to find another (better) job. Of course I don't know where you live, or how the job market is there. But here where I live it seems everyone is hiring. There are signs everywhere. I'm amazed by this because, when I was young & where I grew up, the only way you got a job was if you knew somebody who could get you in somewhere. Anyway... hope things begin turning more in your favor.

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Default Jan 24, 2019 at 02:22 PM
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So I decided I'm going to make one post and just add my vents instead of making a new post for each one.

I'm finding it hard to push through the days. With everything that has been happening and stuff that keeps piling up.

An assistant manager where I work has hit my last nerve today. He keeps butting into my sales and generally acting like I don't know what I am doing. He was lucky today when he butted into one of my sales the district managers were in the store, so I had to watch my mouth. Next time it happens, he is going to hear it a lot worse than I've been giving him. Today he stayed for an hour after he signed out for the day. It seems I don't know how to handle deliveries and the whopping 2 customers we had at the time.

I'm ok with getting fired at this point. The stupidity that keeps happening has gotten out of hand. I was yelled at by 5 customers today because other people didn't do their jobs. things like forgetting to order parts, forgetting to send parts just to name a couple. I did my best to help these customers and thanks to my luck, there was at least one complaint with my name on it. So when I get a talking to about it, I will make sure the bosses know what they can do with the complaint.
Do you report directly to the assistant manager? What I mean is can he fire you or do you have a different boss?

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I'm so sorry, nouseforaname It looks like your job is being very stressful for you. Could you try to look for another job? Is that an option? I know it's not easy, but it may be worth a shot if your job is stressing you out so much. If this assistant manager is bothering you, can you complain about it to your boss? Do you feel like there may be consequences? I feel like you have every right to be in a safe workplace. I'm so sorry, please don't give up. I hope things will get better for you soon. Try to hang on. You can do this! You're strong, I know that. Keep writing here if it helps. If it can help a bit... I'm here for you. I'll listen to what you have to say. I care about you. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
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I work in retail, but with what I would say to him it will not matter if he had the power to fire me. Jobs are hard to get around here. It took me years to get this one to get out from under the thumb of a big corporation.

Only chance I would have is getting fired, so then I have a chance to try and get unemployment for a few months. Then I'll be homeless, which I will never deal with. I'm not someone employers are looking to hire.
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I work in retail, but with what I would say to him it will not matter if he had the power to fire me. Jobs are hard to get around here. It took me years to get this one to get out from under the thumb of a big corporation.

Only chance I would have is getting fired, so then I have a chance to try and get unemployment for a few months. Then I'll be homeless, which I will never deal with. I'm not someone employers are looking to hire.
Reason I was asking is maybe you could talk to another boss or his boss about his micromanaging. Assuming you do your job well he has no business being up your *** about everything.

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I'm so sorry you're stuck there, nouseforaname I hope you'll feel better soon. Please don't give up. I know things seem pretty bad right now, but they can get better. Try to hang on.Keep writing here if it helps. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm always available if you need to talk. Sending many hugs to you
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Default Jan 25, 2019 at 08:48 PM
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I have been in an eff everything mood for a few weeks now. There is no "talking it out" or telling our boss. If this guy can't grasp my frustration that's on him. I did tell him once, in a nice way to let me do my job. So when he gets an ear full, eff him. Nothing will happen if I tell on him to the boss. I'll just be told to ignore it and the manager will have a talk with him. which will never happen. Either way I'm just a bottom guy.

Lol, things can get better. Again, this was supposed to be the better. Things seemed to be better than life said "hahaha eff you, didn't forget about you, you thought things were going to get better, hahaha". On top of all that, I was put into dispatching to learn how to do that, because surprise it's the new thing I have to learn, since I'll be doing it starting next week for a couple days a week. At this point I'm just being set up to be fired or quit. This is the kind of company that will do what they can so they don't have to pay unemployment.

At least I feel sick every time I eat something, so maybe since I can't eat anything I could just starve.
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Default Jan 26, 2019 at 10:01 PM
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Had the confrontation with the a-hole today. He butted into my sale, so I walked away to work on another project I was asked to do. He brings out the stuff for the customer and tried to hand it to me. He tells me here's the stuff for those guys, I told him great job finish it now since you want to micromanage. The customers in the store all leave and I'm not sure if he was trying to embarrass me or whatever but he says "I was helping you because you got the customers the wrong parts". That pushed me, I screamed at him about how he micromanages me and all. I also make mention of how the customers gave me the wrong info and until he butted in I was fixing the issue. I then told him if he does it again I'm not responsible for what may happen.

He said something else as he walked away, I ignored him. A few minutes later I got a text from the gm to call him back when I get a chance. I texted him back and told him I knew why he wants to talk and that we will talk when we work together again. This will be tuesday, the gm only works monday to friday.
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So today was the day I was thrown to the wolves at work and told to do a position I had no clue how to do. Of course what could go wrong went wrong. We were down 2 people and it was one of our busiest days in awhile, for a company that does a lot of business.

I'm hoping that my terrible performance today will stop them asking me to fill in for this position in the future. The day started out great, with the cold weather we have at the moment, my car struggled to start this morning and I had to do a few things to get it to start.
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What an effing week I have had. It started with my friend calling me out of the blue (haven't really talked to my friends or family in about two months). He asked me if I could take him the the hospital for an operation if his cousin couldn't do it. I am all for helping out my friends and family when I can but first I had no clue he was going in for a surgery and second he called me sunday for a ride on tuesday, maybe. Fast forward to tuesday morning and I decide to go shower before I take him and his girlfriend to the hospital, I bent over slightly to clean my leg and threw out my back. Took me 10 minutes to get out of the tub and another 15 to put my clothes on my wet body.

The next few nights sleep didn't really come because I couldn't get comfortable. I close at work on weds, then need to get up early so I could dispatch on thurs, so sleep really didn't come that night but closing fri gave me some rest at least. Still worn out from the week I was told on weds I would have to come in early sat so I can dispatch. I got home fri and went right to sleep, thinking I could maybe get a few hours, nope my a-hole boss texted me to tell me one of the drivers who was going to fill in for another driver wasn't going to be in. This caused me to only get a couple hours of sleep since I can never go back to sleep once I'm up. I *****ed about it all day to anyone who asked how I was doing. Still am *****ing about it. I texted my boss about the rules of texting and calling and how you don't do it at 1am in the morning unless it's an emergency and either a friend or family member of mine.

Today I got to work and started to feel real sick, threw up a little between running to the bathroom. Put out a message on this app we use at work and no one responded to come in so I could go home. On top of it the two people I was working with didn't help by taking the brunt of the work, I ended up helping the most customers, controlling what the drivers needed to do and finished up a project I started awhile back. At least the other two got to hang out and catch up on youtube videos. By the way one of the other two is actually an assistant manager who did none of the managing, cause everything fell on my shoulders. I flipped out a little, hard to go full anger while your feeling sick, and they gasped at me like I was in the wrong for being upset.

Weds if I am feeling better I go back to work again. I am pulling the manager to the side and going to have a very long and angry talk with him. I want a raise for all the extra responsibilities that have been given to me. I want a weekend day off and it's going to be sunday. The reason for this is everyone that I have worked with on sundays thinks it's a do what they want day. Drivers come in late, leave early don't do any of the work they are told to do, even by the manager. The counter guys disappear and ignore their work to watch videos on their phones. If I get any answers or responses that I don't like I will quit on the spot.
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I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, nouseforaname I hope things will get better soon for you. I'm so sorry you have to work in such a stressful environment. Good on you for standing up for yourself and talking to them about what you think. I hope that will help a bit. Sending many hugs to you
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Thanks... I also texted a friend to apologize for how I have been the past couple months or so. I haven't heard from him since. I know texting is a bit impersonal but he was never one to really understand most emotions especially something like depression. So I thought it best to text. That's what I get for thinking...

Feeling like crap, my head hurts but it's not like a headache I have ever had. And my back is still sore. I have lost all energy and I'm too tired any more to get out of bed....
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So the last two sundays I had woken feeling terrible. Headache, nausea, light headedness. Last week I put out a message to get someone in so I could go home. It never happened and I ended up staying because the manager I was working with didn't know what he was doing.

This sunday, I got no sleep again the night before, and was in the bathroom several times before I got to work. Told the other manager I was going to take a nap in my car because I wasn't feeling well and if he needed me to call me. About 15mins late I walked back into work and told them I was going home, my headache and all turned into a migraine. I am feeling slightly better today but not enough to get things done that I need done.

Oh did I mention I was supposed to go to my brother's sunday to get my nused truck? He found a truck for me for a really good price and I was to go out there learn how to drive stick again (it's been awhile) and hang with him and his family for a bit, especially their psycho dog (love her). But nope I got sick, it seems when I want to do something for myself my body rebels.

I can try tomorrow but there are parts of the truck that need replacing, which I got from my work but no one to do put them in, since my brother works tomorrow.

There is more to this but my head is just being a d right now...
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I am a bit of a germophobe. Especially if it means I will end up getting sick. It seems there is a stomach thing going around, a friend of mine was sick last week for a few days, today I found out my roommate was sick this weekend with the thing. One of the things I fear is throwing up, even typing it makes me a little worrisome. So my mind has been going a mile minute worrying about getting sick. This is going to be a bad week or more, because if I get sick, I may breakdown permanently and if I don't get sick, I'll obviously be over worried about it.

I have also been very nostalgic watching shows from when I was a kid. I think it's more about remembering a time when I didn't have all this stress. I even find myself tearing up a bit at some of the things in the show.

I wish I could go to sleep and not wake up for like a month or really never.
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I am a bit of a germophobe. Especially if it means I will end up getting sick. It seems there is a stomach thing going around, a friend of mine was sick last week for a few days, today I found out my roommate was sick this weekend with the thing. One of the things I fear is throwing up, even typing it makes me a little worrisome. So my mind has been going a mile minute worrying about getting sick. This is going to be a bad week or more, because if I get sick, I may breakdown permanently and if I don't get sick, I'll obviously be over worried about it.

I have also been very nostalgic watching shows from when I was a kid. I think it's more about remembering a time when I didn't have all this stress. I even find myself tearing up a bit at some of the things in the show.

I wish I could go to sleep and not wake up for like a month or really never.
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I hope you don't get sick
The worry of it, is just as bad
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Thanks, it would be nice for sleep.

This sick thing is torture. For the short term it's hell. If I don't get sick in the short term, the whole thing will eat at me probably for months.
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A lot of you have probably noticed I don't participate in the forums much. It's mostly because I have no idea how to respond to a lot of the posts people make. Some posts it's about not having a frame of reference to respond with. How can I respond to a person who is struggling with something like being gay, when myself am not gay and neither or any of my friends.

Some posts are so far out there to what I believe, I'll leave it there to not offend anyone. That's part of my issue with not responding to posts. I'm not good with being sensitive towards certain subjects and on a site like this it's best I keep my keyboard shut.

I would like to participate more and I'm going to give it an honest go. It's going to take time especially with my crazy work schedule. I'm going to do a lot of reading on posts to see how people respond and try to learn from that.
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I have no chance of getting health insurance. With this issue friends and family had told me to try cbd. I was nervous about trying it and eventually caved in and got some. For the past two days I gave it a try and woke up feeling like crap. Yesterday I woke up running to the bathroom then I noticed the a near migraine headache and then a bit of dry-heaving.

Woke up today with a bad headache and running to the bathroom. Missed two days of work and with that I may lose my job because of it.
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