Had a little meltdown today

Today I realized I’m a 350 pound, jobless, 26 year old, with nothing going for him. I have 57 cents to my name. One functioning hand. A resume full of employment gaps. I don’t know what I want to do with my life. No matter what I try, I fail. The only saving grace? My gf and farther. If it wasn’t for them I may not be here.

I hope that, in some way, you will be able to find a pathway forward.

Just hang in there🌞

I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Stuck1nhead Please don't be so hard on yourself. It's not your fault if you're struggling. Finding a job certainly isn't easy. You're definitely not alone in this. Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help. You could learn new ways to cope with your feelings. You may even improve your self-esteem a bit. Try to be a bit more gentle towards yourself. I'm sure you're a wonderful person, just like everyone else here on PC - you just can't see it right now. Just take it one step at the time. Take baby steps. Take some time for yourself to decide what you want to do in your life. Do you have any hobbies? What do you like to do in your free time? Perhaps you could start from there to make a decision. Please remember that you're not a failure. As long as you're doing your best, you'll never be a failure. Please remember that. I'm glad you have a support system IRL. Remember that we're here for you as well if you need it. Feel free to vent here as much as you want. We'll listen to what you have to say and won't judge you. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. You can do this! You're strong, I know that. I believe in you. I hope you'll feel better soon. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this

Are their workforce centers in your city that can help you write your resume? There usually are. If you have a disability, you should also apply to your county for disability. I know that can be a real hassle but it's an option you should try.

Do you really think marriage is a wise move, if you don't have an income? You are so young. You can lose the weight, get a job, and feel good about yourself again. Nothing in life is permanent. With each day, there is always another chance to change the trajectory of your path. You are not trapped in your current circumstances although it will feel like you are. Change takes time.

Maybe postpone getting married until you get back on your feet financially and emotionally. Marriage is a HUGE step and if you're not stable in the other areas of your life, getting married certainly won't improve those areas or solve those problems.

(((((((((( hugs ))))))))))

So sorry you're feeling awful Stuck1nhead. Try not to evaluate yourself in such harsh terms. What about your strengths? We all have some. Grab a piece of paper and write them down. Your fiance can give you a few to get started And your father too. Self-perception can be tweaked, slowly over time. All feelings are temporary.

Since I posted this back in February not much has changed. I’ve lost a little bit of weight and I’m about to marry the women whom I love. Well at least not much has changed in the job department at least.

I’ve tried workforce centers, job agencies, and even those for people with disabilities. Nothing I’ve had interviews, but the combination of my disability and employment gaps destroy any chance I have. I can’t even work around food since I have to use my mouth to open bags of stuff.
So that eliminates any fast food jobs. Also due to my hand I can’t lift items that require two hands.

My difficulty is I’m a blue collar worker with a blue collar job history. So no office jobs will hire me.

Disability vocational services must provide you with services finding and securing job. That’s what they here for. If you qualify for their services.

Vocational Rehabilitation - Commonwealth of Virginia

They told me that they had run out of funding and will put me on a waiting list.

That’s a shame! I hope they can get the fundings to help you soon.