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Lightbulb Mar 18, 2019 at 01:44 PM
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I found this helpful list in a 'Science of Happiness' magazine. Hope it helps others too

1 Avoid negative people
2 Find your tribe
3 Respect your own needs
4 Be grateful
5 Let go of judgment
6 Make mental health a priority
7 Go on a social-media diet
8 Be present and mindful
9 Move every day
10 Adopt a pet
11 Sleep more
12 Spend time with loved ones
13 Help others
14 Broaden your horizons
15 Savor your happiness
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Default Mar 18, 2019 at 02:05 PM
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I’m probably a negative person to be avoided.
Maybe labelling someone as a negative person is a judgment?
“Let go of judgment”.

Thank you for sharing. I’m sure this will help some people here.
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I’m probably a negative person to be avoided.
Maybe labelling someone as a negative person is a judgment?
“Let go of judgment”.

Thank you for sharing. I’m sure this will help some people here.
What makes you describe yourself as a negative person?

(Unrelated to you) I see nothing wrong with limiting time with negative people. It's important for self-preservation and peace of mind. Energy transmits regardless of whether it is positive or negative. I don't perceive that as judging. Simply stepping back from someone is not judging them or derailing their sense of peace.

Feel free to tell me more if you feel comfortable.

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Default Mar 18, 2019 at 10:56 PM
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I find it difficult to avoid myself, too!
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Default Mar 18, 2019 at 10:58 PM
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"Positive" people don't want to hang out with me... and finding my tribe would probably be around the "doomed" ones too... that are the ones that can relate with my thoughts and sometimes, even make me feel better, idk

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"Positive" people don't want to hang out with me... and finding my tribe would probably be around the "doomed" ones too... that are the ones that can relate with my thoughts and sometimes, even make me feel better, idk
I didn't see anything on the list about "doomed" people. I wouldn't describe anyone as "doomed."
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I didn't see anything on the list about "doomed" people. I wouldn't describe anyone as "doomed."
Absolutely true Silver.
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What makes you describe yourself as a negative person?

(Unrelated to you) I see nothing wrong with limiting time with negative people. It's important for self-preservation and peace of mind. Energy transmits regardless of whether it is positive or negative. I don't perceive that as judging. Simply stepping back from someone is not judging them or derailing their sense of peace.

Feel free to tell me more if you feel comfortable.

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My “best friend” told me I am a negative person and that person became an abuser. Very much a bully.

I often find “positive people” don’t want to spend time with me.
I also step back from people sometimes.

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"Positive" people don't want to hang out with me... and finding my tribe would probably be around the "doomed" ones too... that are the ones that can relate with my thoughts and sometimes, even make me feel better, idk
I like the quote “our planet is the mental institution of the universe”.
Maybe I’m one of the “doomed ones”.
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"Positive" people don't want to hang out with me... and finding my tribe would probably be around the "doomed" ones too... that are the ones that can relate with my thoughts and sometimes, even make me feel better, idk
I like the quote about our planet.. “positive” people often don’t want to hang out with me either. I also had a “friend” who said I was “a negative person” and then this “friend” (irl) became abusive. I wouldn’t call anyone the “doomed” ones

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Default Mar 19, 2019 at 05:50 AM
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It's all perception. There's plenty of wonderful people out there. And if someone says you're negative, they are probably projecting. Which means they are the negative one. Not you. Self preservation is important.

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It's all perception. There's plenty of wonderful people out there. And if someone says you're negative, they are probably projecting. Which means they are the negative one. Not you. Self preservation is important.
Couldn't have said it better myself! Well done. That's the mantra of my life, "Be positive. You'll achieve unimaginable things." Unfortunately it's not that easy to be positive for some people, that's why it's said positive thinking can achieve great things. Well done.
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Default Mar 19, 2019 at 04:37 PM
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Yea, it seems like those who tell you that you are negative or into psychoanalyzing you are the ones that don't have their lives all together. If you notice, those who are very positive are the ones that would tell you what's great about you than what's wrong with you.
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Yea, it seems like those who tell you that you are negative or into psychoanalyzing you are the ones that don't have their lives all together. If you notice, those who are very positive are the ones that would tell you what's great about you than what's wrong with you.
Good post, I agree with this

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Another one... let those who don’t appreciate us (and who are actually “negative” and “toxic”) go and .... let them go, it’s their loss

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I found this helpful list in a 'Science of Happiness' magazine. Hope it helps others too

1 Avoid negative people
2 Find your tribe
3 Respect your own needs
4 Be grateful
5 Let go of judgment
6 Make mental health a priority
7 Go on a social-media diet
8 Be present and mindful
9 Move every day
10 Adopt a pet
11 Sleep more
12 Spend time with loved ones
13 Help others
14 Broaden your horizons
15 Savor your happiness
Thanks for the list.

I don't mind negative people though. I avoid those who willingly trigger me for self preservation.

Rejection is a trigger for many and people are negative through their experiences not because they are at fault. Spending time getting to know their story creates understanding and their friendship is true unlike so called "normal people."
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Thanks for the list.

I don't mind negative people though. I avoid those who willingly trigger me for self preservation.

Rejection is a trigger for many and people are negative through their experiences not because they are at fault. Spending time getting to know their story creates understanding and their friendship is true unlike so called "normal people."
Good post, I agree

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Thanks for the list.

I don't mind negative people though. I avoid those who willingly trigger me for self preservation.

Rejection is a trigger for many and people are negative through their experiences not because they are at fault. Spending time getting to know their story creates understanding and their friendship is true unlike so called "normal people."
I agree. Rejection is a trigger for many. Thank you Thirty shades for this wise post.

I avoid those who willingly trigger me.

Thank you for the list and the discussion.
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thanks.

need to work on number 2 for sure
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I agree. Rejection is a trigger for many. Thank you Thirty shades for this wise post.

I avoid those who willingly trigger me.

Thank you for the list and the discussion.
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