[Fc1998]

So I’ve been diagnosed with both depression and anxiety since I was 14. Recently I have been dealing with feeling unworthy, annoying, and like a bother to my friends. I know I’m not bothering anyone because I never contact them first (like I said I have a fear of bothering people). That is my problem. Even if my friends do reach out to me, I still have this terrible feeling like maybe I’m a boring person or maybe I’m not worthy of their friendship or attention. All these worries and what if’s have put me into a really dark place. I feel I cannot tell my friends how I feel because I would come off as I’m a downer and they probably wouldn’t understand. I just want someone to tell me I’m not alone in feeling this way. I feel like such a pest all the time and it just makes me distance myself from everyone. It’s hard feeling this way

[sarahsweets]

The only way we can get our needs met is if we share what they are with those who might meet those needs.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Fc1998 I understand how you feel. It's hard when we're struggling with self-doubts and self-guilt. You're definitely not alone in this. I have your same struggles. I know how you feel. I hope knowing that you're not alone in this maesk you feel a little bit better. Please remember that you're a strong, wonderful person. You are valuable and you matter just as much as everyone else. Please don't be so hard on yourself. There's nothing wrong with you. You just need to gain some self-confidence and self-love. Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help. You could learn new ways to cope with your feelings. He/she's there to help you, after all. I completely agree with what sarahsweets har already wisely said better than I ever could! I'd suggest to try to listen to her if you can. She always has some great advice! I'm sure your friends love you and accept you for who you truly are. We do as well! We all care about you here. We all love you here. We're all here to support each other. Please don't give up. Remember that we won't judge you, no matter what you say. You can just be yourself. I promise you that. Please keep writing here if it helps. You're not a bother to anyone IRL or here on PC. Please remember that. If someone does think that, it's their problem, not yours! Please don't give up. I'm sure many people can relate to what you wrote, especially here on PC. We'll always be here for you if you need it. I promise you that. Please don't give up. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this, Fc1998. You're a strong, wonderful person. Please remember that. Please don't give up! Try to hang on!

[Skeezyks]

Hello Fc: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. Welcome to Psych Central. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the relationships forum. Here's a link to that one:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

And then here are links to 5 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that discuss the concept of self-worth & offer suggestions for what to do when you feel unworthy. Also included are 2 articles on building self-esteem, the first by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D.:

You Always Have Value — Here's How to Nurture It

How to Let Go of Feeling Unworthy

5 Quick Ways to Recognize Your Self-Worth

We Are All Inherently Worthwhile: How to 'Try On' Worthiness

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...ld-self-worth/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-tips...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/8-sugg...dium=popular17

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

[Fuzzybear]