Your triggers

T4bbyCat · Mar 21, 2019 at 05:53 PM

Would you be willing to share what, if anything, triggers your depression (or other pain)? I know depression often comes for no apparent reason, but can be made far worse by something beyond one's control (which is also a trigger in my mind).

Personally, I didn't think I had triggers, but someone's comments tested this. Specifically, she mentioned what a wonderful experience childbirth had been for her, because her kids gave her meaning and purpose in life where there had been none. I know I should've been happy for her, but instead felt the burden of loneliness on my own part. It's as though she considered life meaningless unless you're a parent.

I realize others (especially parents) are dealing with other issues and this will not be something to identify with... but any triggers you might have would be relevant.

Thirty shades · Mar 22, 2019 at 03:50 AM

Rejection

Feeling powerless (I would be surprised if this was not a trigger for most people. Abuse of any kind leaves us feeling that way. So called normal people think we are spoilt or having a tantrum when in CPTSD meltdown but we are really triggered when feeling powerless.)

Feling unsafe.

Ohseedee · Mar 22, 2019 at 06:07 AM

Not having a routine can make my depression worse. I was at my worst when I was on disability, not working and staying home all day doing very little. It gave me more opportunities to think negative thoughts and ruminate on them. I would sleep during the day a lot. I felt guilty and useless.

Having a routine is crucial for my well-being. I feel at my best right now as a full-time student on placement because I have something to do every day and a goal I'm working towards achieving. Even the small parts of my routine (showering, brushing my teeth, not sleeping during the day) are important.

Mopey · Mar 22, 2019 at 04:28 PM

Any sort of rejection or disapproval, real or imagined.

Fuzzybear · Mar 22, 2019 at 04:56 PM

Rejection.. feeling powerless... abuse

(and a few others)

Fuzzybear · Mar 22, 2019 at 04:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

Rejection

Feeling powerless (I would be surprised if this was not a trigger for most people. Abuse of any kind leaves us feeling that way. So called normal people think we are spoilt or having a tantrum when in CPTSD meltdown but we are really triggered when feeling powerless.)

Feling unsafe.

MickeyCheeky · Mar 22, 2019 at 05:05 PM

Thank you so much for making this thread, T4bbyCat! Thank you so much everyone for sharing your experiences! I have never thought about my triggers, but I'll have to agree with all of what you wrote about rejection! Being rejected is a trigger for me and it always makes me feel worse. It certainly. I'm so sorry we all have to deal with all of this. You're all strong, wonderful people. Please don't give up! Try to hang on!

downandlonely · Mar 22, 2019 at 05:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ohseedee

Not having a routine can make my depression worse. I was at my worst when I was on disability, not working and staying home all day doing very little. It gave me more opportunities to think negative thoughts and ruminate on them. I would sleep during the day a lot. I felt guilty and useless.

Having a routine is crucial for my well-being. I feel at my best right now as a full-time student on placement because I have something to do every day and a goal I'm working towards achieving. Even the small parts of my routine (showering, brushing my teeth, not sleeping during the day) are important.

Not having a routine is my biggest trigger too. It was worst when I was unemployed. Tough thing is that when I am too depressed, I can't concentrate enough to work.

Mar 23, 2019 at 09:08 AM

mine are:

1. abusive childhood./ bad abusive past

2. no family (or at least family that want to know me)

3. chronic pain/ other body issues (including self inflicted ones)

4. having limited experience (someone half my age has more experience than me)

5. nott being able to get through school (it's a big one for me), I wouldn't say I'm bad at certain subjects, but I am less than average

6. lack of a good support network and good coping methods

7. not really knowing what I'm doing from day to day, (forget in a few months/ years)

8. too many diagnoses (meaning their's always something going on with me mentally), and their's no such thing as a "normal" day"

Fuzzybear · Mar 25, 2019 at 07:08 PM

(((((((( hugs to all ))))))))

mountainstream · Mar 25, 2019 at 07:55 PM

Rejection and injustice.

Mopey · Mar 25, 2019 at 11:43 PM

Also I would have to add failure. I’m hesitant to try anything because so often I fail and that just sends me off into a downward spiral.

Thirty shades · 04:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mountainstream

Rejection and injustice.

I was returning to the thread to post Injustice and lies
Particularly gaslighting (being called mad for calling out lies)
Any type of controlling behaviour
Bullies Grrrrrr

And side effects from med's is a major trigger too

Sending much love to all those who are triggered to feel negative emotion

T4bbyCat · Mar 28, 2019 at 04:53 PM

Thank you everyone... good insights. Rejection in particular seems to cover a lot, including loneliness and abandonment. I don't know if there's such a thing as a true happy loner among humans.

Fuzzybear · Mar 28, 2019 at 07:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

I was returning to the thread to post Injustice and lies
Particularly gaslighting (being called mad for calling out lies)
Any type of controlling behaviour
Bullies Grrrrrr

And side effects from med's is a major trigger too

Sending much love to all those who are triggered to feel negative emotion

Deilla · Mar 28, 2019 at 08:18 PM

My triggers are pain, mention of abuse of any kind and drama.

Fuzzybear · Apr 05, 2019 at 01:13 PM

people who use our triggers against us........

(Not anyone on pc)

Fuzzybear · Apr 05, 2019 at 02:38 PM

People who don’t like me because I’m allergic to cats

And people who use that against me

Thanks a bunch........

(Not about anyone on pc)

mountainstream · Apr 05, 2019 at 04:44 PM

Rejection.

Deilla · Apr 05, 2019 at 05:46 PM

When people don't show up like they said they would.
Lack of support.
Disrespecting boundaries.

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Thirty shades Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2018 Location: UK Posts: 4,799 (SuperPoster!) 5 16.2k hugs given	Mar 22, 2019 at 03:50 AM #2 Rejection Feeling powerless (I would be surprised if this was not a trigger for most people. Abuse of any kind leaves us feeling that way. So called normal people think we are spoilt or having a tantrum when in CPTSD meltdown but we are really triggered when feeling powerless.) Feling unsafe.
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Mopey Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: California Posts: 2,025 5 1,520 hugs given	Mar 22, 2019 at 04:28 PM #4 Any sort of rejection or disapproval, real or imagined.
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Fuzzybear Wisest Elder Ever Member Since Nov 2002 Location: Cave. Posts: 96,325 (SuperPoster!) 21 81.2k hugs given	Mar 22, 2019 at 04:56 PM #5 Rejection.. feeling powerless... abuse (and a few others) __________________
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mountainstream Magnate Member Since Apr 2008 Location: N/A Posts: 2,150 16 747 hugs given	Mar 25, 2019 at 07:55 PM #11 Rejection and injustice.
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Mopey Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: California Posts: 2,025 5 1,520 hugs given	Mar 25, 2019 at 11:43 PM #12 Also I would have to add failure. I’m hesitant to try anything because so often I fail and that just sends me off into a downward spiral.
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T4bbyCat Member Member Since Oct 2018 Location: US Posts: 232 5 3,924 hugs given	Mar 28, 2019 at 04:53 PM #14 Thank you everyone... good insights. Rejection in particular seems to cover a lot, including loneliness and abandonment. I don't know if there's such a thing as a true happy loner among humans.
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Deilla Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Oct 2017 Location: Limsa Lominsa Posts: 29,401 (SuperPoster!) 6 49.2k hugs given	Mar 28, 2019 at 08:18 PM #16 My triggers are pain, mention of abuse of any kind and drama. __________________ ‘Live for now,’ ‘This too shall pass,’ ‘Everything is happening for my good.’
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Fuzzybear Wisest Elder Ever Member Since Nov 2002 Location: Cave. Posts: 96,325 (SuperPoster!) 21 81.2k hugs given	Apr 05, 2019 at 01:13 PM #17 people who use our triggers against us........ (Not anyone on pc) __________________
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Fuzzybear Wisest Elder Ever Member Since Nov 2002 Location: Cave. Posts: 96,325 (SuperPoster!) 21 81.2k hugs given	Apr 05, 2019 at 02:38 PM #18 People who don’t like me because I’m allergic to cats And people who use that against me Thanks a bunch........ (Not about anyone on pc) __________________
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mountainstream Magnate Member Since Apr 2008 Location: N/A Posts: 2,150 16 747 hugs given	Apr 05, 2019 at 04:44 PM #19 Rejection.
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Deilla Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Oct 2017 Location: Limsa Lominsa Posts: 29,401 (SuperPoster!) 6 49.2k hugs given	Apr 05, 2019 at 05:46 PM #20 When people don't show up like they said they would. Lack of support. Disrespecting boundaries. __________________ ‘Live for now,’ ‘This too shall pass,’ ‘Everything is happening for my good.’
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