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Default Apr 27, 2020 at 06:52 AM
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I'm moving to a new city 1st of June. To an apartment that is a bit smaller than my current one.

It's still so overwhelming. Having to move. Doing all the practical stuff.

My life is in shambles. I've been crying a lot. My family has tried to be supportive and called me every day.

I have a lot of anxiety in the morning first thing waking up. Racing thoughts, catastrophizing, heart palpitations and so on. It slowly gets better during the day. The evenings are the best for me.

I know this depression probably clouds my thoughts so I can't see anything positive in my life or my future. I'm not looking too far ahead. I'm still just trying to deal with one day at a time.

I'm on 300mg Effexor now. Today me and my psychiatrist decided I should try Duloxetin because Effexor doesn't work well enough (4 weeks now on 300mg).

I could use some encouragement and positivity. I hope all of you are hanging in there and are having some good days.

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It is new beginning...starting over and an opportunity to reset. Try to view the situation as if your future is taking a new path and will fall into place instead of anything falling apart. I hope this move eventually makes your life better and turns out to be unexpectedly great.

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I'm moving to a new city 1st of June. To an apartment that is a bit smaller than my current one.

It's still so overwhelming. Having to move. Doing all the practical stuff.

My life is in shambles. I've been crying a lot. My family has tried to be supportive and called me every day.

I have a lot of anxiety in the morning first thing waking up. Racing thoughts, catastrophizing, heart palpitations and so on. It slowly gets better during the day. The evenings are the best for me.

I know this depression probably clouds my thoughts so I can't see anything positive in my life or my future. I'm not looking too far ahead. I'm still just trying to deal with one day at a time.

I'm on 300mg Effexor now. Today me and my psychiatrist decided I should try Duloxetin because Effexor doesn't work well enough (4 weeks now on 300mg).

I could use some encouragement and positivity. I hope all of you are hanging in there and are having some good days.


Good morning, Mat. I've been wondering how you've been getting along.

It's good that you're taking the projected move one step at a time -- moving is such a huge upheaval. And I'm very very glad to hear your parents have been so supportive. Calling you every day? That's great. My parents would never have done that. I'm in envy!

I'm also glad to hear you'll be trying a new medication. Effexor never has worked well for you. Not every med works for every person, so it's entirely possible this one may work better. I sure hope so. You may have to adjust the dose...

Many hugs and good wishes and please keep keeping us posted.

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Good morning, Mat. I've been wondering how you've been getting along.

It's good that you're taking the projected move one step at a time -- moving is such a huge upheaval. And I'm very very glad to hear your parents have been so supportive. Calling you every day? That's great. My parents would never have done that. I'm in envy!

I'm also glad to hear you'll be trying a new medication. Effexor never has worked well for you. Not every med works for every person, so it's entirely possible this one may work better. I sure hope so. You may have to adjust the dose...

Many hugs and good wishes and please keep keeping us posted.

I’m sorry to hear you don’t have as supportive parents. My mom calls every day because she’s seen the state I’m recently in, so she’s worried. We’ve had period of times where we didn’t see each other or talk for more than a year. So it’s nice to have them now.
It’s a big upheaval for sure. I still don’t like to think too much about it. I wake up all mornings seeing no future for me and just feeling like a complete failure in life. It’s like I go into panic mode the minute I wake up and the anxiety kicks in. It’s really awful.
I hope the new meds work well too.
How are you doing Mopey?

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It is new beginning...starting over and an opportunity to reset. Try to view the situation as if your future is taking a new path and will fall into place instead of anything falling apart. I hope this move eventually makes your life better and turns out to be unexpectedly great.

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I’m not good at new things. I’ve lived in this city all my adult life so it’s a big change for me. But I know I could do with a change and that I haven’t really been happy while I’ve lived here. But it’s still a nice apartment and surroundings.. i think we’re all just creatures of comfort and like to keep things as they’ve always been.

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I’m not good at new things. I’ve lived in this city all my adult life so it’s a big change for me. But I know I could do with a change and that I haven’t really been happy while I’ve lived here. But it’s still a nice apartment and surroundings.. i think we’re all just creatures of comfort and like to keep things as they’ve always been.
I agree. We like to keep things as they've been. I think we notice what we are losing during change more than what we are gaining. That is what causes me stress around change. The loss is easy to see because it is the things we are familiar and lived with for a long time. The gain is hard to fully see because it is unknown. We haven't lived it yet, but it does exist. So, I think anxiety about it is expected and to be accepted and pushed through to get to the benefits of the change. Keep moving through it.
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I’m sorry to hear you don’t have as supportive parents. My mom calls every day because she’s seen the state I’m recently in, so she’s worried. We’ve had period of times where we didn’t see each other or talk for more than a year. So it’s nice to have them now.
It’s a big upheaval for sure. I still don’t like to think too much about it. I wake up all mornings seeing no future for me and just feeling like a complete failure in life. It’s like I go into panic mode the minute I wake up and the anxiety kicks in. It’s really awful.
I hope the new meds work well too.
How are you doing Mopey?


Hi Mat, glad you're hanging in there. I can totally relate about the anxiety in the morning because when I wake up I have a few seconds of peace and then the "monkey mind" starts, thought upon thought, all of them worrisome, all of them increasing. For a long time I've been working with a technique of visualizing all those excess thoughts as being pushed down a garbage shute very forcefully, and trying to focus as best I can on one thing: which is whatever thing I have to do next. Sometimes it kind of almost works.

My parents are both deceased now of course, but the thing with them was, we never properly bonded. As far as they were concerned they had sacrificed everything for me and did nothing but worry about me, so they totally could not understand why I wasn't doing better, and the idea that my relationship with them might be partially responsible was brushed away with anger and outrage. They blamed me for whatever happened, and that was that.

My best to you as always.

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