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How do I get the balance “right” between censoring everything I say.. and so basically saying nothing at all.. and sharing “too much” / “whining” etc
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Speak your truth I am here to listen Expressing ourselves when we feel distress, The pain speaks Not whining Just pain... Let it out Feel it out Let it go.... |
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Here - theoretically - you don't need to get the balance "right". Your forum friends certainly don't expect "balance" or "self-censorship" from you.
((((((( ))))))) I can see where self-censorship is useful in many contexts and social situations. I must confess I've often chosen silence over "getting it wrong". __________________ My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it. |
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I’ve never once seen you “get it wrong” on here (if you did I wouldn’t judge that ) as you say, our forum friends don’t expect “balance” or “self censorship” I “get it wrong” a lot in real life .. but often I am silent :-( __________________ |
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I have often chosen silence over "getting it wrong" IRL social situations. It has only been in the last few years my confidence started growing & I do a lot of research to learn which has helped confidence....but I still find times when silence is good just less often now. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Assertiveness for us includes silence. When we speak our emotions cannot easily be kept under control. We need to feel safe to allow them out. |
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