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Old 04-17-2019, 02:11 PM #1
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Default I simply can't enjoy JOY

I should be happy right now. There is goodness in my life. I have reason to feel joy. Instead of looking forward to joyful things coming my way I feel a growing sense of sadness. I don't want to be depressed. The thought of being so only draws me closer.
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I can't either. If things suddenly start going right I'm immediately aware of how ephemeral that state of things is, and my mind starts casting around for something to worry about, which it immediately finds.

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Default Re: I simply can't enjoy JOY

Same here! I feel guilty when I have some kind of good feeling. I can bask in it for a while, but then I think, hey! something's wrong. This can't be! I'm not supposed to feel that joy.

It seems like I feel alive when I feel bad and/or have things coming up to dread. Right now in my life I have things coming up that I'm dreading. It puts me in the defensive. And then that makes me feel alive or normal. Weird isn't it?
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I hear what you both are saying. I will go so far as to say that as I get more and more depressed I feel less and less deserving of the good things I should be happy about.
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That is so true. The worse I feel, the less I feel I deserve anything good.
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I can so relate! Treading water....even when it's shallow enough for me to stand.
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Default Re: I simply can't enjoy JOY

I can emapthise.

Going out and faking joy is very hard and tiring.

I wonder if the sadness comes from knowing we are missing out of the feeling of joy.

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Default Re: I simply can't enjoy JOY

With me, I can feel joy and take pleasure in what makes me feel happy, but I am fearful that something will happen to hurt me soon, because it too often does, causing sadness yet again. I wonder if my depressed reaction to things is a self sabotage deep down. Good thread. Hugs to all.

I think I deserve to feel joy...
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Sometimes that inability has to do with not feeling deserving or worthy of the joy. Could that ne a possibility for you?
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