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Old 04-18-2019, 09:51 AM #1
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I recently decided that I wanted to pursue a dual PsyD/MEd in human sexuality. It's actually the only thing I really want to do with my life. I found out yesterday that the program has about a 6% acceptance rate. Now I'm just resigning myself to the fact that I'll never get in. I can't stop going over all of the ways that I think I'm not good enough. I'm getting into a depressive space. I'd rather give up on dreams than try and--in my mind--surely failing. I'm also withdrawing. I don't want to bother either of my only two friends, so here I am writing to strangers on the internet.
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OK so its hard to get in but still apply , you never know you might get accepted . don't give up . x
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OK so its hard to get in but still apply , you never know you might get accepted . don't give up . x
While I know that is the rational approach, it just feels pointless to try. Even if I get in, I don't know how I'd ever be able to move, pay for it, do all the work, and survive. I'm sure everyone in my life is sick hearing about it too. So if I give up it will be better for them too.
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You might not get in if you apply, but if you don't apply you definitely have no shot. If this is your dream, I think you should at least take a chance.
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You might not get in if you apply, but if you don't apply you definitely have no shot. If this is your dream, I think you should at least take a chance.
I agree with this post . at least you won't look back and wonder what if i applied . if you don't get in your can make new dreams for yourself , never give up x
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I get very depressed too. Am now actually. Some things though, especially when I am depressed, I simply ask myself "what else have I to lose?"

If the answer is "nothing" and it is not something that needlessly endangers me or someone else - I do it.

Here - you are already hopeless. Should you get denied .. it will seem to validate your hopelessness but effect nothing else - unless you think it would tip you over the edge into suicide.

So - if it is only hopelessness holding you back .. then you have "nothing else to lose" and thus, should apply. If it would effect anything else negatively, you should not.

You know all your circumstances and all your emotions, not me - so that's the best advice I can give.

Probably is not what you want though..

I do hope whatever you do includes being good to yourself. Take care.
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You might not get in if you apply, but if you don't apply you definitely have no shot. If this is your dream, I think you should at least take a chance.
The worst part is that I agree with this, but it doesn't seem to matter. I can know exactly what is happening, why it's happening, what I could do, and still have it make no difference.
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I am not sure I would like to do a PhD in chemistry either. And I am still an undergrad.
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@Crypts_Of_The_Mind: well I would have wasted a lot of time and spent a couple thousand dollars just to try to get in. I also have no back up plan because it's a really unique program. So if I try and don't get in, I'll have no plan for my future or life.
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