Self love

Desiree you are not fat.

You carry a few pounds more than you would like but you are still worthy and lovable.

We have free will to choose to change or accept ourselves AS IS.

Much love to you

This is from my personal experience:

First, I want to mention that I have difficulty understanding and relating to "self" and "love" as individual parts of the phrase. I have recently started working on those two ideas individually - Who am I? What makes ME, me, and not someone else? What does love truly mean? What does love feel like for ME?

I'm still processing that, but I am learning and understanding more and more each day. So far, what I can say about "self love," for me, is that it represents a willingness, ability, and desire to look inward and apply many of the empathetic and kind feelings and "talk" that I can much more easily see in and share with others.

The key for me is applying and living my inherent values more often. MY values - not the values of others, especially those that we imposed on me by family members or society. Three of my "top" values are creativity, humor, and perspective. I find that I reach the closest idea of "self love" by following those three values as frequently as possible. This makes me feel "better about myself," and provides me with pathway to living a life that is meaningful to me.

Thanks for taking the time to read my post. Be well and flourish!

Thank you dear friend

Much respect, peace and calm thoughts to you

Hi Thirty shades and all reading,
I liked your question and thought I would share my experience on this topic. I hope it helps!

Self love in its truest form is a thought. It is a idea that once we have it we will be happier in our own skin. I say it’s a thought because if you think about it, if you think and believe that you are worthy, special, and perfect the way you are, then it becomes true for you. But if you think you are not worthy, unspecial, and imperfect then that becomes true as well.
So the trick to manifesting tour own self love is to think you are self loving more then you are not!

Sounds simple, I know, but when you do get it,it will seem even simpler. It just takes a little work on each persons part to make it a reality. Things like self analysis ( looking at ones life and observing how the things they do affect them), affirmations ( repeatition of thoughts), meditation, mindfulness, or doing a activity that brings joy and passion to ones life repeatedly are all things that can help jumpstart the self love train!

I want to finish by saying I liked tour question because I feel self love is very important. It was one of the first thought, belief, and knowings I attained in my personal transformation. To me it is the glue that holds everything together in the good and the bad. No time is ever wasted on the pursuit of attaining this gift.

P.s. As for the people who bring you down out there. If someone gives you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, then who does the gift belong to?
Often people who say mean things are just transferring their own insecurities. Because let’s face it, in order for people to recognize and say something, they have to had been thinking about it first!

All the best!

I know many of us struggle with loving ourselves.

Can anyone put forward any tips that they find helpful?

How do we be confident in ourselves as we are?

I know many of us struggle with loving ourselves.

Can anyone put forward any tips that they find helpful?

How do we be confident in ourselves as we are?

I struggle with this too

Thank you dear person for starting this thread

I appreciate you and all you share

Maybe self love might start with self respect.. I’m not sure..

And separation of “stuff” - the words of abusers or those who are misguided or misinformed about us don’t hold value..

We are valuable and loveable as is

With kindness and respect to you

And to all here