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Default Apr 21, 2019 at 12:30 PM
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I know many of us struggle with loving ourselves.

Can anyone put forward any tips that they find helpful?

How do we be confident in ourselves as we are?
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Default Apr 21, 2019 at 02:07 PM
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I struggle with this too

Thank you dear person for starting this thread

I appreciate you and all you share

Maybe self love might start with self respect.. I’m not sure..

And separation of “stuff” - the words of abusers or those who are misguided or misinformed about us don’t hold value..

We are valuable and loveable as is

With kindness and respect to you

And to all here

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tough one....this is so important....thanks very much TS and fuzzy...
rohag usually has something good to say...
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tough one....this is so important....thanks very much TS and fuzzy...
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Thank you Fuzzy, Little Turtle and Rohag

I appreciate you all being here and offering kind support
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Thank you Fuzzy, Little Turtle and Rohag

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Thank you Thirty shades for being here ...
And for always being kind
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"Self-love simply means to fully accept and allow your true, natural self. It means, to embrace the unique being you are and fully express the unique energy that represents the very core of your being."

A quote from Why True Self-Love Is Your Most Important Mission And How It Will Change Your Life ForeverPick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement

We are able to love ourselves, it is the lack of love from others that brings us down.

Constant attacks from those who judge.... Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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"Self-love simply means to fully accept and allow your true, natural self. It means, to embrace the unique being you are and fully express the unique energy that represents the very core of your being."

A quote from Why True Self-Love Is Your Most Important Mission And How It Will Change Your Life ForeverPick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement

We are able to love ourselves, it is the lack of love from others that brings us down.

Constant attacks from those who judge.... Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Thanks for posting this Thirty shades

Yes, those who love to judge are relentless


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More wise words thank you for always being kind and true
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Hi Thirty shades and all reading,
I liked your question and thought I would share my experience on this topic. I hope it helps!

Self love in its truest form is a thought. It is a idea that once we have it we will be happier in our own skin. I say it’s a thought because if you think about it, if you think and believe that you are worthy, special, and perfect the way you are, then it becomes true for you. But if you think you are not worthy, unspecial, and imperfect then that becomes true as well.
So the trick to manifesting tour own self love is to think you are self loving more then you are not!

Sounds simple, I know, but when you do get it,it will seem even simpler. It just takes a little work on each persons part to make it a reality. Things like self analysis ( looking at ones life and observing how the things they do affect them), affirmations ( repeatition of thoughts), meditation, mindfulness, or doing a activity that brings joy and passion to ones life repeatedly are all things that can help jumpstart the self love train!

I want to finish by saying I liked tour question because I feel self love is very important. It was one of the first thought, belief, and knowings I attained in my personal transformation. To me it is the glue that holds everything together in the good and the bad. No time is ever wasted on the pursuit of attaining this gift.

P.s. As for the people who bring you down out there. If someone gives you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, then who does the gift belong to?
Often people who say mean things are just transferring their own insecurities. Because let’s face it, in order for people to recognize and say something, they have to had been thinking about it first!

All the best!
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Thank you for this thread! Love to all.
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Hi Thirty shades and all reading,
I liked your question and thought I would share my experience on this topic. I hope it helps!

Self love in its truest form is a thought. It is a idea that once we have it we will be happier in our own skin. I say it’s a thought because if you think about it, if you think and believe that you are worthy, special, and perfect the way you are, then it becomes true for you. But if you think you are not worthy, unspecial, and imperfect then that becomes true as well.
So the trick to manifesting tour own self love is to think you are self loving more then you are not!

Sounds simple, I know, but when you do get it,it will seem even simpler. It just takes a little work on each persons part to make it a reality. Things like self analysis ( looking at ones life and observing how the things they do affect them), affirmations ( repeatition of thoughts), meditation, mindfulness, or doing a activity that brings joy and passion to ones life repeatedly are all things that can help jumpstart the self love train!

I want to finish by saying I liked tour question because I feel self love is very important. It was one of the first thought, belief, and knowings I attained in my personal transformation. To me it is the glue that holds everything together in the good and the bad. No time is ever wasted on the pursuit of attaining this gift.

P.s. As for the people who bring you down out there. If someone gives you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, then who does the gift belong to?
Often people who say mean things are just transferring their own insecurities. Because let’s face it, in order for people to recognize and say something, they have to had been thinking about it first!

All the best!


Thank you for posting True Experience. Your words are very helpful.

I am at the start of a journey and wish to strengthen my glue.
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