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Iíve been married to Papa bear for more than 12 years. He says Iím kind, smart, thoughtful, creative, empathic to others and have a good sense of humour.

But family and some others have said and shown me repeatedly that they do not respect me or care. They have called me names, ugly, stupid, useless, repeatedly. Including parental units.

Maybe papa bear is wrong....

Maybe I am the terrible person the Narcisists in my life have always painted me as
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I offer an opinion.

Papa Bear is not wrong about you.

But, Papa Bear is Papa Bear. He has his own history and experience, including his close experience of you.

The others have their own histories, their own psychologies and psychological urges. They will "paint" you, perceive you in accordance with those internal urges.

The factual weight of Papa Bear's perceptions is far greater than that of the others.

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If Papa Bear says it, it must be so. If your FOO look unkindly upon you, itís their problem. They are ill. People who love you choose to look upon you favorably. The fact that you emerged from that toxic environment and are all those good things shows how resilient you are.
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Papa bear knows you best Fuzzy.

You show everyone here kindness and support.

There is no accounting for people with ego's that want to judge us.
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Iíve been married to Papa bear for more than 12 years. He says Iím kind, smart, thoughtful, creative, empathic to others and have a good sense of humour.

But family and some others have said and shown me repeatedly that they do not respect me or care. They have called me names, ugly, stupid, useless, repeatedly. Including parental units.

Maybe papa bear is wrong....

Maybe I am the terrible person the Narcisists in my life have always painted me as
Papa Bear is correct. The others are called narcissists for a reason. They look out for what suits them. What makes them look best. What allows them to get what they want. They will lie to do it and often do.

Don't believe them. Stay away from them. Keep Papa Bear close. ❤❤
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Iím too ďweakĒ to fight the Narcissists any more..
They stone me and Iím no longer willing to put up with being their whipping ***** There are too many cruel people in this world
Papa bear enjoys the tv. It drives me (more) insane.
Iím not ďgood enoughĒ for him.
He must not know how much I wish I could delete myself
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Thank you all for your kindness and for replying to me

Iím sorry for being such a sick ungrateful piece of ****
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You are good enough and you are not a piece of crap. Honestly, my husband likes the TV too, but then, I like to be online. We are kind of unhealthy that way - and yet it works bc we are always around one another.

You cannot allow the negativity into your mind though. Please disconnect yourself from these people if at all possible...
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