[Fuzzybear]

What is Fog? Is it when family members try to dump their guilt on us for breathing? When nothing we do is ever “good enough”

When we are “intrinsically not good enough”?

When we aren’t worthy of respect? Why? I think everyone is worthy of respect.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Are you asking "what is brain fog"?

I am sorry you are going through all that. I go through that at times as well. When it happens (like it is now) - I tend to isolate myself. Figure out what's going on. Why. What I should do about it. Sometimes I recognize it truly is my fault. Sometimes it is not. (Like now). Sometimes it is a little of both.

When it is not my fault - I limit contact or cease contact altogether (if a resolution is unable to be made .. I try to establish a resolution first, but do not "insist" upon it). If it is my fault (after careful non-emotional but logical thinking) - I go to them and apologize and offer up any resolution I have to offer and listen to theirs and go from there. If its a blend .. it depends if the others are willing to accept their responsibility in it or not. If they are, then a resolution is figured out between us we both agree upon. If they don't accept responsibility, then I limit or cease contact altogether.

Right now - I have no clue what to do bc it is friends, family, and acquaintances.. yet I have not changed from when ppl likes me. So, if that's how it is for you too .. I don't have any advice bc I am lost.

[Fuzzybear]

Crypts

Also it feels like some people want to dump ...

Fear
Obligation
Guilt

(FOG)

On us

Almost everyone in real life tries to dump those toxic things on me

Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind

Are you asking "what is brain fog"?

I am sorry you are going through all that. I go through that at times as well. When it happens (like it is now) - I tend to isolate myself. Figure out what's going on. Why. What I should do about it. Sometimes I recognize it truly is my fault. Sometimes it is not. (Like now). Sometimes it is a little of both.

When it is not my fault - I limit contact or cease contact altogether (if a resolution is unable to be made .. I try to establish a resolution first, but do not "insist" upon it). If it is my fault (after careful non-emotional but logical thinking) - I go to them and apologize and offer up any resolution I have to offer and listen to theirs and go from there. If its a blend .. it depends if the others are willing to accept their responsibility in it or not. If they are, then a resolution is figured out between us we both agree upon. If they don't accept responsibility, then I limit or cease contact altogether.

Right now - I have no clue what to do bc it is friends, family, and acquaintances.. yet I have not changed from when ppl likes me. So, if that's how it is for you too .. I don't have any advice bc I am lost.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Crypts

Also it feels like some people want to dump ...

Fear
Obligation
Guilt

(FOG)

On us

Almost everyone in real life tries to dump those toxic things on me

Thank you for explaining. I did not know it was an acronym. ❤

Yes, they do dump those things on us .. which is what I was describing. Sometimes .. the dumping comes as a result of my actions. Sometimes it is just them beinv mean for whatever reason. Sometimes they are being mean without realizing it and my actions are somehow making it worse.

Does that make sense?

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind

Thank you for explaining. I did not know it was an acronym. ❤

Yes, they do dump those things on us .. which is what I was describing. Sometimes .. the dumping comes as a result of my actions. Sometimes it is just them beinv mean for whatever reason. Sometimes they are being mean without realizing it and my actions are somehow making it worse.

Does that make sense?

This definitely makes sense. Sometimes they dump those things on me “because” of some action I have done. It could have been something I said or did long ago, in the past. Some family members (all in fact ) lack in the ability to appreciate fuzzy bears Other times they are being mean, for an unknown reason. I do think sometimes some people may be mean without realising it

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

This definitely makes sense. Sometimes they dump those things on me “because” of some action I have done. It could have been something I said or did long ago, in the past. Some family members (all in fact ) lack in the ability to appreciate fuzzy bears Other times they are being mean, for an unknown reason. I do think sometimes some people may be mean without realising it

That's why I isolate for a time to logically think it over and figure out what's going on so I know how to appropriately react to it and what actions to n not to take. ❤

I hope this helps. ❤❤

Love ya my friend!

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind

That's why I isolate for a time to logically think it over and figure out what's going on so I know how to appropriately react to it and what actions to n not to take. ❤

I hope this helps. ❤❤

Love ya my friend!

Thanks Crypts, this does help

Love you my friend

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Thanks Crypts, this does help

Love you my friend

Glad it helps ❤❤