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Grand Magnate
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#1
Nobody cares - unless I post (or say) things like this .. then (most) people care. Maybe that's good for some. As for me - I either care or I don't regardless of the situation .. and most often I care bc I care about people in general. So - I guess perhaps I deserve the pain I get bc it is a self defeating thing .. to care and not be cared about - still, it's something I refuse to stop doing.
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Grand Magnate
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#3
I sat down today and the words "Nobody cares" kept playing in my head.
I knew it wasn't true, But it felt true I care about you Crypts I am sorry that I was not here earlier to tell you. Kind thoughts and hugs are sent to you from the |
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Grand Magnate
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I don't know of anyone who can honestly say they have not said (or thought) that first option at least once as a first impression of a situation - and sometimes it is truth. Problem is ... it is my observation most people are now saying or thinking this near all the time with almost every person they speak to. Yes, I feel people do not care about me .. but even more I feel like I am in a small ship full of people that care - with a raging ocean of people who do not care .. and we are getting ready to capsize - not so we won't care, bc that will never happen .. but so we will be completely drowned out and not only unable to be felt but unable to feel as well. __________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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#5
I care about you Crypts
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Grand Magnate
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I understand what you mean about fake caring. A few words here and there don't help and can be upseting if help or support offered is not forthcoming. I have become much better at recognising fake kindness now. One small positive that helps me protect myself. In part we cannot feel our positive emotions well and we dwell on our negative ones. I think our brains have been programmed this way with the past traumas we have endured. Sending hugs and kind thoughts to you |
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Fake “caring” .... __________________ |
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Grand Magnate
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#8
You are not fake caring ... bc you care for ppl whether they hurt or not.
Fake caring occurs when people choose to care only if they think it "is the right thing to do" and can be discerned by figuring out if you actually can say "I want to help this person" with honesty when you find out the reason the person hurts and not having it clouded with anything else (such as "that's a stupid reason to be hurting that much" or "that person just wants attention"). If you can honestly say you want to help the person - you are legitimately caring. If you say you want to help but are either being dishonest or it is clouded by something like what i explained above or it is done simply bc it is what you have been told or taught is "right" and there is no real emotion behind it, then THAT would be "fake caring". __________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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#9
I’m sorry you feel this way. That’s a lonely place to be and I’ve been there. Do you feel this way with family and friends around? I’m sending a genuine hug.
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Grand Magnate
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__________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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