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Default I feel a fake

I am struggling to feel any positive emotions at all. Even when I try for the sake of others.

I pretend around them as I don't want to be pulling others down with me.

I feel a fake person in my own body.
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More frustrated, I know I will get there but people are playing games and making it difficult.

I feel I am letting those around me down because I am not fully present.
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I feel I am letting those around me down because I am not fully present.
This is how I feel. It's a catch-22 because you don't feel present because of the depression, yet realising you don't feel present just makes you feel guilty. In my experience though, the feeling of bringing people down is completely unwarranted and just part of our self-loathing. I know that doesn't help in the moment, but try to bare it in mind.
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You certainly aren't letting ANYONE down here, Thirty shades! Please don't be so hard on yourself! You've helped many people thanks to your kindness and thoughtfulness, including me! I completely agree with what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! Just try to be a little bit kinder to yourself, ok? WE ALL CARE ABOUT YOU HERE! THAT'S A PROMISE! I PROMISE YOU ALL OF THAT BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! PLEASE REMEMBER ALL OF THAT AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! THAT'S A PROMISE! Please take GREAT care of yourself, ok? : throb: WE ALL CARE ABOUT YOU! THAT'S A PROMISE! WISH YOU GOOD LUCK! Let us know how things are going for you! We DO want to know how things are going for you! THAT'S A PROMISE! Sending many kind, safe, sweet and warm hugs to you, Thirty shades!
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You certainly aren't letting ANYONE down here, Thirty shades! Please don't be so hard on yourself! You've helped many people thanks to your kindness and thoughtfulness, including me! I completely agree with what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! Just try to be a little bit kinder to yourself, ok? WE ALL CARE ABOUT YOU HERE! THAT'S A PROMISE! I PROMISE YOU ALL OF THAT BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! PLEASE REMEMBER ALL OF THAT AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! THAT'S A PROMISE! Please take GREAT care of yourself, ok? : throb: WE ALL CARE ABOUT YOU! THAT'S A PROMISE! WISH YOU GOOD LUCK! Let us know how things are going for you! We DO want to know how things are going for you! THAT'S A PROMISE! Sending many kind, safe, sweet and warm hugs to you, Thirty shades!
Thank you for your such kind words.

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Thank you for your such kind words.

Thank you to all who support members when we need it, I really appreciate you all
Thank you for all the kind support you give here, you’re much appreciated

Much love to you and all in this thread
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More frustrated, I know I will get there but people are playing games and making it difficult.

I feel I am letting those around me down because I am not fully present.
No need to answer these questions:

Is it possible to be fully present in your current circumstances?

Might not being fully present be, at least in part, a necessary personal/psychic defence for you (especially in view of "people playing games")?

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No need to answer these questions:

Is it possible to be fully present in your current circumstances?

Might not being fully present be, at least in part, a necessary personal/psychic defence for you (especially in view of "people playing games")?

I think I have abandoned myself again. Thank you Rohag for reminding me of that.

When life becomes too painful and I cannot take the action the would bring ultimate peace, I think it is the only thing I can do.

I cannot deal with life when feeling overwhelmed. I now feel guilty that I am not present for my kind family members.
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