Sad and just venting

It's been a long time since I've been on here and just needed to vent. Kind of a rough day/year.

So...a brief background. My dad doesn't live with his wife (they aren't divorcing, has to do with work). I live in the same area has her. So he came out here to visit. She has insecurity issues and when they got married it was 2 days before my birthday and they didn't tell my stepbrother or myself that they were getting married. The third time I met her was on my birthday where they broke the news that they went to Vegas. (This was about 9 years ago).
She was jealous of my dads and my relationship, and I have no idea why, our relationship hasn't been the best.

Anyway he came out here mainly for their 1st anniversary (got married twice and celebrate both dates). My dad didn't tell me, found out through the stepmonster and he leaves on my birthday early in the morning.
So I went over today, and she seemed agitated that I was even there. Kept glaring at me, just had attitude overall. This happens anytime I go over when he is in town. My dad is a man of few words except for when it comes to him and his wife.
Plus when he isnt in town, I'm the one who has to reach out to him, otherwise I'd never really hear anything from him ever.

I've been struggling with my depression more lately and this was like rubbing salt in a wound...I feel like I have lost my dad in a way, and its like i keep losing him. Maybe I am just overreacting?

Sorry for the long post...

Your stepmonster sounds a lot like mine. Visiting someone who makes it clear you are not welcome is unnerving. In the end they would only visit me if they were already in the area shopping.

Funny how her daughter was welcome anytime and they saw her 4 times a week. I wasn't jealous at all because the visits were not enjoyable.

It's not a problem for me now as I ended up going no contact with them both due to far worse acts of abuse and gaslighting.

Sending you respect and kind thoughts