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Hi. I've been seeking therapeutic help for depression for about 8 months now, and I can't seem to help but lose hope. I've tried two different therapists and haven't felt a good connection with either, but the thought of having to re-establish with yet another feels exhausting. My main issue is that I don't seem to have the motivation or will to actually do anything in therapy. At my last couple appointments, my therapist has said that I constantly reject everything she suggests to the point where she's not sure how else she can help me. Maybe I don't know what I'm expecting therapy to do for me, but I've never been the type who can write in a journal or practice positive affirmations. Journaling confuses me because I can't ever think of anything to write, as my depression isn't really a constant stream of negative thoughts but rather this amorphous weight and darkness. Positive affirmations feel cheesy and fake to me. I'm a very logical person, perhaps to a fault, but positive affirmations and self-lifting statements make me feel worse because I know that I
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Hello thrgstml: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the psychotherapy forum. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/psychotherapy/

Here are links to 6 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that hopefully may be of some help (or at least interest):

Tips for Finding Motivation When You're Depressed

12-Steps to Creating Motivation When Depressed | Relationships in Balance

8 Steps to Motivate Yourself... | Relationships in Balance

5 Tips for Dealing with the Overwhelming Fatigue of Depression

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-more...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...y-or-recovery/

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I can relate, @thrgstml! Motivation is hard when we're depressed. First of all I do believe it s FUNDAMENTAL that you find a therapist that you actually have a good connection with. Your lack of motivation may be due in part to not finding someone that you can actually feel comfortable with. Other than that, I'd suggest to bring up these very valid concern to your therapist. Tell them that even though you DO want to get better you have an hard time finding the motivation to do those things they suggested. I'm sure there are MANY other activities you can try if you feel like writing in a journal isn't helping you out. I hope you'll find what you're looking for VERY SOON! Please keep us updated on your situation if you can and want to! We ALL do care about you! THAT'S A PROMISE! Wish you the BEST of luck in BOTH your healing and your life! Stay safe and take GREAT care of yourself! KEEP FIGHTING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN! You ARE IMPORTANT and YOU DO matter! THAT'S A PROMISE! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and ALL the people you love and who love you, thrgstml KEEP ROCKING!
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I can relate, @thrgstml! Motivation is hard when we're depressed. First of all I do believe it s FUNDAMENTAL that you find a therapist that you actually have a good connection with. Your lack of motivation may be due in part to not finding someone that you can actually feel comfortable with. Other than that, I'd suggest to bring up these very valid concern to your therapist. Tell them that even though you DO want to get better you have an hard time finding the motivation to do those things they suggested. I'm sure there are MANY other activities you can try if you feel like writing in a journal isn't helping you out. I hope you'll find what you're looking for VERY SOON! Please keep us updated on your situation if you can and want to! We ALL do care about you! THAT'S A PROMISE! Wish you the BEST of luck in BOTH your healing and your life! Stay safe and take GREAT care of yourself! KEEP FIGHTING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN! You ARE IMPORTANT and YOU DO matter! THAT'S A PROMISE! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and ALL the people you love and who love you, thrgstml KEEP ROCKING!
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