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Default Jul 17, 2019 at 03:36 PM
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Hi. I started joining to depression forums like 3 years ago, I started joining because i thought i would meet other people to talk to, till today that ive not met anyone to talk to, i joined to every depression forums ive found.

I dont have "depression", but i cut off all relationships with everyone long time ago, ive not hang with another one since long time, i get used to this, with this thing of forums and... just getting used.

About this forums, when i thought about find depression forums and depression sites i thought was going to finaly find other people who is dealing with the same.

Any others here -over 25old- who also deal with loneliness ?
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Default Jul 19, 2019 at 02:52 PM
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hey brother i feel quite lonely too and im over 25. i don't think we can expect people to always be there for us or to understand that it is a human need to feel like part of the tribe. it's not people's fault, people are just different and can't help responding to the social environment the way they do... that is to say, sometimes it's not really our choice how we mesh with those beyond us. people are programmed differently- example-

i just did the Big Five Personality Test and I realize i may just have certain traits that isolate me, that i barely have any control over. it's like you said just getting "used to things" or like acceptance (maybe). however, getting used to things can also mean adjusting to diminished expectations of experience and that can be problematic--- "getting used to things" because perhaps it means we will be less dynamic, less responsive to the world, less responsive to ourselves and less primed to act and make decisions spontaneously.

(because we have accepted a certain position on how things are, we've subjected ourselves to a sort of determinism). anyway, although some people don't crowd around the comfort of the fire with their tribesmen, some of us exist along the borders of the collective social territory, and in the night of the soul perhaps we exist on that threshold so that we can be vigilant for those distracted by the flame or perhaps we are there to get our light from the stars. nothing is conclusive.

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Default Jul 20, 2019 at 01:00 PM
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I am well over 25 and deal with loneliness. It seems like it's been a chronic problem for me. I have felt that way practically all of my life. I've had friends, but not a whole lot.

Right now I have one friend. He's 83 years old and has limits. He reminds me of my late father, who was often critical. I wish I had a friend around my age. There's potential in having that but it seems so hard.

One time, on another discussion board, a man was stating that middle-aged men and older could use lessons or pointers from little boys on how to make friends. When I was a little boy, making friends happened easily. At least a lot easier back then than now. That man also stated that he knew of a 56-year-old man who had killed himself because he could not make any male friends around his age. And he was married.

Unfortunately, as we get older, it becomes harder to make friends.
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Anyone else ?
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