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Of course, it is more complex: feeling unaccepted might - to some extent - prompt you to do certain things that could set off others. Then again, if they know you're struggling, they will probably show some degree of understanding. |
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If a friend asked you if they were too hard on themselves, you would probably see it. You're just as important. You deserve all the good things that come your way.
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I believe we all need to "see who we are" but also be able to "decide what we want to change - or if we want to change". In this way, growth is possible. It seems to me that if you simply accept yourself "as is", growth stops and becomes "this is all I can be - it is who I am, like it or lump it!". When we see ourselves for who we are atm though, we should be able to say "I am a good person deserving of happiness" yet also be able to see clear enough to see the flaws without causing the emotions of "I am a horrible person, I need to be alone and suffer the rest of my life."
I hope that makes sense. I guess what I am saying is - don't feel guilty for not accepting yourself "as is" - it shows you wish to continue growing. Work instead toward ridding yourself of all unneccessary guilts. You are a good person. You deserve happiness. You deserve a good life. __________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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I think I have the most trouble accepting myself when I am filled with panic. It takes over and prevents growth. Rejecting the panic, makes it grow and become worse. Not sure that I want to accept myself as a panicky person. I think I need to accept the panic is part of me for now. I am learning to grow by accepting this awful state is part of me. Maybe at some point it will leave me or at least become easier to manage... |
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This is actually what I was saying. Accept yourself- but also determine what you want to change about yourself n go about doing so. (In your example - panic attacks would be what you wanted to change- so you would set up a plan to do so whilst not making "expectations" (such as a date you expect it done by, or how good/bad you are doing) __________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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Lately it has been mostly impossible to escape. I am trying to accept it for what it is, an emotional flashback. Many things help but it always returns... I endeavour to keep trying.... |
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Sounds like you have a healthy acceptance and attitude to it. I have been dx'd with general anxiety for about 20yrs now. It is a rare occasion that I am "crippled" by it anymore (get completely wrapped up in the panic - physical and emotional as well). I had to learn not only what my triggers are but also how to recognize I am close to going into an anxiety attack to prevent it. After that I had to experiment to see what exactly worked for me and what does not. I say all this not to "toot my own horn", but rather to say - the climb may be steep and seem to have no end to it; but just bc it is not currently in view - doesn't mean the end is not there. Keep your heart and mind not just believing, but KNOWING you WILL be without the severe panics and be able to not only hide them but be able to lessen their affect on you, you nearly- if at all - feel it. I say this to everyone bc I experienced the truth of it: You ARE stronger than you think! (Just keep plowing ahead! ❤) __________________ Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away |
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Thanks Crypt's, onwards and upwards....
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