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Default Aug 24, 2019 at 06:37 PM
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Every year now I seem to lose friends. Or if not lose them they fade away and chose other friends over me. Online friends specifically. I struggle to make real life friends, I have a couple but mostly rely on the ones I make online. Last year, I had a wonderful friend. We had so much in common, we would chat and play games together online and suddenly I got hit with depression. She told me I could confide in her, so I trusted her deeply and did so. All of the sudden she started cutting me out and choosing other friends over me. She snapped at me and told me I was expecting too much of her. All I told her I wanted was for her to show up online when she said she would instead of leave me hanging for hours on end. It was my fault for being upset somehow. My fault she stood me up on many occasions.

This year I have another good friend, lately though I feel like she's also pulling away. I don't know why this happens and it's kind of breaking my heart. It's making me feel like I don't deserve friends maybe. She also has told me I can talk to her, I've confided in her. I dared to trust another person and I feel like it's only a matter of time before she leaves too. This weekend is the anniversary of the friend who left me last year, and I waited around for this new friend on Friday after telling her I'd be online. I don't know if I'm wrong, or if they are wrong,but I feel like I'm going insane and don't know how to feel better..

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Default Aug 25, 2019 at 06:55 AM
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I also have problems with making friends.

in my case I think it has a lot to do with my life being boring

seriously people don't want to meet someone who just sits by herself all day feeling bad and doing nothing

people want others with experience. stuff to discuss. a sense of humor. actual variety in their life, not someone like me

I talk about my problems a lot too, and for people that don't care that isn't exactly cool either
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Default Aug 25, 2019 at 11:11 AM
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I’m sorry... that has to hurt I’ve found that often others with depression/anxiety (and some other mh challenges) are more understanding. I hope you don’t give up on people completely, there are some compassionate and supportive people around

Maybe this friend doesn’t understand depression. A few times I’ve trusted someone and been hurt. When dealing with depression this is very painful

Anniversaries of negative events can really suck. Be gentle with self.

Keep posting, there are many kind and compassionate people here who are understanding

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