I'm tired of it

Hi there,

I'm tired of the bullying...Everywhere I go I get laughed at.....I give up.....

I'm tired of sick, mean people

I'm sorry you're being targeted by idiots.

Thank you so much Fuzzybear ….It's almost time to go back in the hospital, due to the bullies..Now I am so afraid to go out and be around people...I'm scared...

When I was young, I was extra sensitive to everything anyone said or did to or about me. My Mom gave me a few "tools" I could use as a kid. There were 2 things she told me I could say ..

One was "I know you are, but what am I?"

Purpose there being when ppl call you names or otherwise insult you in a mean and unnecessary way, it usually is cause by something to do with them (such as how they view themselves, maybe they are angry or hurt and lashing out, etc) and not you- so basically just letting them know you are ignoring their insult bc you know it's not you they are truly referencing (even tho they word it as such).

Second one was "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"

Purpose behind that one is to remind yourself that you are in control of what you allow to harm you emotionally- but not always in control of physical pain .. and then communicating that to the person insulting you.

These are not things I reccomend saying unless you are a young child - but you can still use their purposes and come up with something else to say.

Another thing she taught me was to leave the area if things got too bad. I still do that (even with my husband) if I need to.

Later, a counselor told me "you cannot control others, you can only control you" - meaning things others say or do or believe or feel .. that's their decision, not yours - but, you can control how you react to said things as well as control what you do or believe or feel.

So, combining those 4 things together has helped me immensely in how I react and interact with others.

Perhaps these are things which could also help you.

Are you able to move from these ppl or at least go to a different area?

Do you believe what they say about you. If so, why?

What is it exactly about these things that has caused you to allow (I say allow bc it is an unconscious decision we make unless we take the time to analyze our situation and possible reactions to it) yourself to continuously be hurt?

I am not asking these things to upset you, but rather to help you analyze it through in a healthy way.

I understand the pain of bullying. My stepsister did that t ok md daily when I was a teen and was bullied in many relationships both as a child and an adult. Yes, I too allowed it to hurt me. Then I learned how I could stop allowing it to do so. Now, most times (not always) I am able to let things "bounce off me" - but if I am in an emotionally unstable stage in my life - it can be hard.

Do you think your depression could be adding to you taking what they say to heart?